Getting over domestic violence when he's your child's father?

I went through this in 2003....Remember it is a you and him issue.....He will still have a relationship w/ his child and that is definately the hard part. I learned not to discuss anything with him but his child....nothing personal nothing that will make you want to be with him.....the heart heals it really takes some time and many phone calls to your best girl friend all hours of the day and night. Go to court for child support and if you believe in God go to church pray and talk to other single women who are divorced it all helps!!!!

The most important thing you need to do is find a good lawyer, one who specializes in child custody cases. Your child can not be taken away without good cause. That means that you make sure nothing happens while the child is in your custody that even looks like neglect or abuse. I think you are in for a long battle and it's going to be expensive. I have been through this and it wasn't until my children were grown that it was over. I had no trouble getting over him, but the destruction of our lives was almost more than I could deal with. We survived, but the children have issues to deal with because of the way their father treated them. He is dead now, so I'm sure , since he will have to answer to God, that justice will be served. I will pray that God will give you strength to do what you have to do.

bring him to court and tell them how he was abusive to you. No court would be stupid enough to give a child to an abusive man