Life isnt fair?

Like you one of my best friends died at 21 of cancer as well. His fiance (my bestfriend) was of course devastated. We used to get together often and of course Dave would always come up in conversation. We'd laugh and cry for hours over all the good times we did have. We cried when we talked about how lucky we were to have known him in the time he did have.

My girlfriend told me years later that it helped her alot that she could talk to someone who wanted to remember Dave for the life he'd lived and not the way he died. Try to find someone who wants to remember your friend and the life she led and the impact she had on people. To be honest I remember being almost grateful that he was past all the pain as he'd fought hard for 4 years. I liked the idea that he was now at peace.

Try and find someone who wants to celebrate your friends' life. Sounds like you were a very lucky person to have known this girl. I know I'm still grateful I ever got to know Dave, he was an unbelievable individual. I still think of him often and he's been gone 27 yrs this August. Keeping your friends memory alive is the best tribute you could pay her.

So sorry for your loss.

Try Hospice. They have great bereavement programs. I used it when my mother died. The first thing that they tell you is there is no time limit on grief. Everyone needs to deal with it in their own way at their own time.

Good Luck!

you will never come to terms with the death of someone you love, there are support groups you can go to but it aint an instant result. you are still greiving and that can take years.

it will get easier as time goes by. \