I'm starting to hate my mum... how am i gonna bridge the differences?h?

Let me guess, you are between 12 and 23. All parents and children go through this stage. It is the difficult part of the child beginning to grow up to independance, while still needing guidance from parents. Trust me, it is just as hard on her. Sit and talk to her. Tell her how you feel using I phrases. " I want ..." "I need ..." "I feel...". If you phrase things without using the word "you" as much as you can, you will not make her defensive. She will be more open to hear what you have to say. Let her know that you are growing up, and need to make some decisions for yourself. You need her to be there for you, to comfort you when you fall. You appreciate her advise, but it is just that adivise. It is not your decision.

It sounds like you understand her and where shes coming from but she has no openmindedness for you and what your going through. She is old fashioned and was raised a certain way probably through Christianity bred into her. As god says love thy enemy because having hatred or negative feelings towards others that are ignorant to you will eventually have a negative impact on you and your life. We go through life forgiving others that trespass on ourselves and I do understand that some people are like this. It is one of the most hardest things to do in the world is to forgive. I used to be the type of person that didnt forgive easily I thought it was stupid to be that way. But I do understand that it isnt good to let others take advantage of you as well and maybe she missed that point. It might be easier for you to have an open mind about Christianity and the teachings that are given to you in church. It will help you to understand her forgiving ways and it sounds like you already do understand her on how she can be. Why not try doing something together that both of you find enjoyable like maybe a picnic or a movie matinee. Maybe broaden your mothers horizons by picking a book out that will change or better her life and then let your mom pick out one for you.

ok honey well i had the same problem, my mom will help anyone in need or anything she is always thinking about everyone else and not herself enough, and i was constantly getting drug into doing some sort of service that seemed completely pointless, and he hated when i had a boyfriend and she just wouldnt let me grow up basically, and i know this sounds messed up but when i actually did grow up i thank her for it now, i would be really messed up if it wasnt for all her protection, and despite what you think she cares about whats on your mind a lot, but in the end she is your mom before she is your friend and she is going to do what she thinks is right, but you should tell your mom she needs to take a break, and do something for herself, she will probably fight you on it but you could just do something for her, she will appreciate it a lot whether she shows it or not, but hating her wont help anything, often times my mom was under a lot of stress, and she felt like if she didnt handle something then it wouldnt get done, but in the end you should just appreciate your mom for everything she does, be glad that you have a mom, my mom died two weeks after i turned 19 she got in a car accident on her way back from visiting her grandma in the nursing home, you may think it could never happen to you until it does, i wish i had been more appreciative to my mom, and not faught with her, just be there for your mom because you never know today might be the day she didnt come home, and you got in a fight with her as she was walking out the door, just tell her you love and appreciate her despite what you think she does everything she does because she loves you even if it seems she is just trying to make things more difficult on you, love her its worth it and just be happy to have her because some people would love to have their moms back just to say thanks or they love her, good luck and please consider what i have said.

have you thought about her feelings? You only talk of YOU YOU TOU!!! You selfish BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBB Maybe she knows that the same problems in life are the same