Would You Feel This Way Also?

You married the guy who was sweet and not a alcoholic. You didnt marry the guy who is a alcoholic. He changed and became some one else. In his previous marriage he probalby did this same exact thing to his ex and guess what? It Happens! Your childern feel that connection between you and him not going well which is unhealthy. When your kids see you having interst in other men they are going to think that getting married and looking at men at the same time is fine! Drinking is not good around the childern unhealthy and a bad example. The best thing to do is to get a divorce and to try picking out the men you date better. SO he is safe for you and the kids. Hopefully you learn from your mistakes and that next time you look very closely into what he says and does. You can catch the lies and realize that someone is not normal. Remember this, their are always signs no matter how good you are at pretending to be someone differnt. The signs are there and they always will be.

If he is not interested in changing, then you have to do what you can to make your own life and the life of all your kids better. Yes, for better of worse has only a certain limit. My personal limit is physical abuse where the children are being harmed. If he threw you and your kids out, then that would be a good exit, even if only for the moment. He might decide that he really missed you guys and then you would have more leverage in the relationship. You could then demand that he get help for his problem or else you guys will not return. That might be what he needs to turn himself around. Because if it's the alcohol that's making him act this way, taking that out of the picture can really make a world of difference.

But you need to in the meantime provide for yourself and the safety of the children. If it means you getting a job to help support yourself in case he does throw you out for good, then work on that. I know it's rough given the situation, but you need to think about yourself and the kids.

I wouldn't dump him just because he changed...but the alcoholism and his actions when he's drunk would be the main problems here. This is part of the "sickness" part for sure.

You might want to get out now before it escalates. Drinking is a big problem, and he might just be degrating you now but he could start to hit you too. You can love a person all you want but you can't change them, they have to change themselves. And although i am against divorce, i still believe that there are certain circumstance that can not be tolerated. Abuse both physical and mental, if a person has cheated on you more than once. Things can get really bad and you still should stick it out. but it sounds like he is emotionally abusing you which is something you should talk about which you did and if believes he is doing nothing wrong then there is no point in continue to try. So don't feel bad about leaving him, its his own doing.

Well, sweetie, if he is treating you and the kids so badly, I would say now is the time to wake up and smell the roses and take your children to a womens shelter where they will not let him near you and they will give you a place to stay, and help you find a new place to live and a job.

That is absolutely no excuse for him to be that way and no environment for any child to grow up in, please be a hero to the children and leave him. I am so sorry you had to learn the hard way, but when you leave him, it might seem hard at first, but believe me, it will be easy!!!

You are not coping out, you are a strong woman who has a backbone, and who is being a hero to her children, and to herself.

Please do the right thing, in the end, you will be so happy!!!!

You are in my prayers, you and your children.

Your not wrong for wanting to leave him,why would you want to stay with a man like this anyway? there doesnt seem anything good in your relationship and it just seems as if your there because you havent been brave enough to go,you arent the 1st to fall deeply in love its just a shame this man hid the real him from you(most do) there all on their best behaviour when we 1st meet untill they get you hooked then as soon as your married and there feet are under the table its a different story,leave theres nothing left there for you,you deserve to be happy.Good luck x

I don't see any reason to stay in that relationship... especially when it is toxic for your children.

Do NOT subject your children to living with an alcoholic who emotionally abuses you, and kicks you all out.

Time to fess up to yourself that you were wrong. Maye you really hold your vows close, but you need to think way past about just yourself, you have an obligation to your children, and for them to have a safe and healthy upbringing. If you stay, you are making a huge mistake that will leave an impression on your children for the rest of their lives. It's time to do what is right, and you know what that means.

this is life sweet heart, you'd gotten rid of one, better or worse, do you really think you'll be damned now? If your not happy baby go. Always, that's just a good motto. If your not happy your kids aren't happy his kids aren't happy and you've got a miserable house hold. Is that what you want out of life?

Sit down and have a heart to brain with yourself. What do you want and what are you willing to sacrifice to get it? If your not willing to sacrifice your dignity and self worth, to be a beer caddy, then what are your options.

Don't feel bad honey this is life, we all make mistakes. Just own your mistake and walk on, with your head up. Everyone makes mistakes, strong people realize it and change it. Are you everyone or are you strong?

GIRLFREND!!!! If he is not interested in changing then you must make the change. Who comes first. You have children you have to think about. I have been there and I finally got the nerve to pack up and go. Nothing good will come from this. IT is unhealthy for you and your kids. What right does he have to put someone out!!!! This is gonna break you down. dont you feel like your worth sooooo much more. dont you love yourself. your kids. you need to think long and hard about whats going on,pray,get that answer and go from there. Me i finally got enough, either i was going to jail for murder or stress myself to the point of having a breakdown. so it was do i love him more than myself......NOPE!!!!

You cannot work at a marriage by yourself. Since he is not willing to change and you are not happy, then you need to make a serious decision if this is how you want to live. For better or worse does not mean you have to take being treated badly. Good luck to you!

there are three good reasons to get out of a marriage. They're the three A's. Adultery, Abuse, and Addiction. You've got two out of three there sweetie! Time to cut your losses, admit you made a mistake, and get you and your precious children out of there! Even if you want to try and work this out, you shouldn't put your children through the insecurity and terror of wondering if they get to stay in their home that night for fear of being thrown out by some drunken maniac. If you must try to work it out for some reason I can't fathom, then do it from a distance. Don't live in the same house with him while you do it. If you stay, I worry for your physical safety as well as your emotional. Get out sweetie save yourself while you're still able. Good luck!