are my parents blowing this out of proportion?

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alright, here's the deal: i'm fifteen years old, and i have an eighteen year-old boyfriend. he just recently graduated from high school and will be attending college in the fall. my parents are divorced and remarried, and i live with my mom and stepdad in a small town. occasionally, i go to stay with my dad on the weekend in houston. 
about a week ago, my dad brought up that if i would like to have my boyfriend come and stay the weekend with me there, that that would be just fine. my mom and dad have the same morals, or pretty dang close, but when i ran this by my mom and stepdad, they freaked out!

i tried to explain to them that we would be sleeping at opposite ends of the house, and my dad would go great lengths to have any "inappropriate behavior" taken care of. sure, you may answer with things like "you're too young", and maybe i am a little young, but i really care about this boy.i just wanna know if my parents are being unreasonable.
i mean, isn't it my dad's house & rules??

And For A Moment I Am Happy · Accepted Answer

A fifteen year old and a eighteen year old should not be dating. Your are still a child. If you have sex he will go to jail for rape.

Anonymous · Answer

this one is tricky...
ok yes it is your dads house and his rules, so what ever they say wont matter to any one but you.  but you are still alittle young, however if my 15 year old had a boyfriend that old i  would rather him stay the night with her so i could keep a close eye. your dad sounds like a good and trusting parent, maybe your mom and step dad need to trust your judgment alittle better....

on the other hand it is very as a parent, they just don't want anything to happen to you, they know that you still have alot to learn about sorting ou your feelings, about who to trust and when its ok to trust, they dont want you to get taken advantage of, so i know is may make you angry and they seem to be "blowing this out of proportion" but really they just love you. 

i must say i give your dad props! not alot of dads like him. 

maybe you should just tell your parents, that you know that they love you but assure them that your old enough  to say no if you need to. and that your dad will be supervising. make them see that you know were there coming from first then let them here were your coming from. 
if they still wont listen or dont want to talk about it , then just go. its you dads house anyways, and they cant do anything about it. 

hope this helps sweetie....

puddyshred · Answer

You sound like you're behaving responsibly.  Your parents are being a bit naive, in my opinion.  Isn't it better for them to know where you are rather than you sneak off together cos they won't agree to let you see each other.

All a parent can do is try to instil some good values as they bring their child up.  Then they have to sink or swim, knowing that their parents will be there to pick up any pieces.

Anonymous · Answer

i would say if your dad says its ok then its ok it is his house after all i have a sixteen year old son who has a fifteen year old girlfriend and she stays over i wont say it didnt feel strange in the begining but you are both young adults

Miss Misery · Answer

I think if your dad is fine with it, you should have him talk to your mom and stepdad. I can understand their reasoning, though.

Judascave55 · Answer

Your dad is ok, but your mom is unreasonable, you should live with your dad, and leave your mom with her man.

holly.gore · Answer

technically, since its your dads house, your parents cant do anythnig about it.

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