boyfriend issues. help?

This relationship is making you unhappy. Break up with him. He may be a big part of your life now, but it sounds like it's not a good thing. You deserve to be treated with respect, and if he is unwilling to give you that respect, then leave his *** on the curb.

I've been going out with this guy for almost 10 months. for the first 3 or 4 months of being together, everything was amazing. we were both soo happy. then after 4 months, i started to become more and more miserable. he started controlling everything i'd do (ex: drinking coffee, my bedtime, my outfits, going on the computer, talking/seeing friends, running..etc..) he always goes thru my emails, myspace comments/messages, facebook, and texts/calls on my phone. (and i have NEVER once looked thru anything of his, and ive never cheated on him or anyone, so i dont understand this) we argue and fight constantly almost every day, and it'susually because i "make him so miserable." it's ridiculous! he yells and screams at me, and he treats me soo badly alot of the time.

>He is a control freak and wants control over everything you do. Next he will stop you from seeing your friends because he will start feeling jealous.

>The very fact that "you make him miserable" tells me that he doesn't know what he wants in a relationship and that he must do this all the time.

>Watch out for abuse, emotional and maybe even physical violence, something is wrong here, I would recommend leaving him as the situation will become worse.

>He will try everything, and anything to have you stay and not leave him, he fears rejection, don't let him control you like that, be strong and let him know that you are not going to take his attitude anymore, he may get even more violent, be prepared and don't let him scare you, if he starts to, leave immediately...Good luck.

Love,

George :)

i rly do love him tho, and he says he loves me...and when we are together everything is amazing. i'm afraid to break up because he's my life. i just can't deal with all this much longer. what should i do?

Well he has obviously dated some rotten girls in the past, that is why he has trust issues. That or he is doing something he is not suppose to. When guys cheat they see how easy it is and automatically assume you are cheating as well. So they start going through your things and acting all weird. As far as him "controlling" you. That is part of being in a relationship. You do not have the same freedoms you once had. (chatting on line with guys, etc) I would find out what the underlying issue is here and try to fix it. If that does not work, then move on as hard as that may be. Everyone thinks that after a break up it sucks to be single. But in reality it don't. You get to come and go as you please. You are only young once. If you are not enjoying every moment, move on!

He's not your life...and he doesn't deserve to be in yours. He's got issues way beyond anything you could do. It's better to get out now! As soon as possible. It's gonna be hard getting used to being on your own, but seriously...anything is better than that.

He's controlling for a reason, and sometimes it means that that person is being unfaithful, therefore the need to make sure you are not being unfaithful also.

Girl! There's so many other men out there! Trust me HE IS NOT YOUR LIFE!!

Get back in touch with your friends...

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years...neither of us have never had any reason to check on the other...

your boyfriend has serious trust issues he needs to confront, and he's ruining your life while doing it.

He doesn't love you unconditionally, like the way you love him, and like you said, you're only in love with the good times...but, you gotta bounce when the bad outweighs the good.

You have no life without him...that makes your relationship with him a waste...

You're worth so much more!!!

Hugs!

Good luck!

Usually with long term relationships this is common,

When someone has sexual or they think they are in love for the first time with the other they tend to become very clingy and controlling. You two should take a break but explain to him why. It may take a long time and you probably will end up still being with him even though the majority of your friends will tell him to break up with you.

It's sometime mostly everyone gos through so your not alone.

You need to make adult decisions.

i know its hard. breaking up with someone u love is not easy. If he REALLY was the one for you he would NEVER want to hurt you like that. i mean no guy is perfect, but that is just ridiculous. he should trust you if he loves you. u can never have anything if you dont trust eachother. i know it will be hard but its one of those things you have to suck up and do, and then after you will come out stronger. maybe start anew or take a vacation to a different country for a while after with some friends

Well, if you really like him I would suggest first talking to him about this. Explain what he does that bothers you and how you feel when he does this. If he truly loves you he'll try to change, good couples compromise. However, if he keeps acting this way break up with him. You dindt deserve to be treated like this no one does. And if you never say anything about it, he'll keep doing what he does, lurking your personal conversations etc. and controlling your life. If you love him, give him one more chance, but only one more chance.

If he treats you in such way, don't be afraid to break up with him. It's possible that you are feeling a certain attraction to him, you were together a lot of time. But these kind of men, obviously have no respect for women. Think of all other men you can find. Don't let him ruin your life ! Leave him.

Don't put up with it. He won you over at the start by being really nice and sweet and making sure you fell for him. Things won't ever get better.

I was with a guy for years, and the watrning signs that he was a jerk came early on, but I lost all my confidence and wasted what should have been happy, carefree years with him. I'm kicking myself now, wondering why I didn't leave sooner. It will hurt to break up if you love him, but BE STRONG. You lived without him before, and you will again. It just takes time to get over. Good luck!

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You need to take a step back. I'm not saying break up with him, but tell him you need some space because the relationship went way to fast. He needs to back up and trust because if he doesn't trust you it will only get worst. This relationship is doomed to fell the way it is going now.