worried & pregnant?

worried? yes, all mothers ask those same questions. ever since i saw the movie, steel magnolias, getting pregnant was my worry. Both my parents are diabetics and I know I was going to be one, and my fear was I was going to end up like Julia roberts character.

Well, nothing happened, thank you Lord....

when you go into labor, all of those worries disapear. Because you are focused on one thing and that is delivering your baby. I had family there in the room, not during delivery, but everything up to and that was really conforting. Just warn them, that when pain comes, you might blurb stuff and to ignore it, hee hee. the doctor or midwife is always there during delivery and they will do what is best for the baby.

as for being a good mother? Of course you will, it will be scary at first. I was scared, never held a baby before, didn't know what to do, but natural instincts come in and take over. Now my baby is turning one year next week and everything up until then has been fun!! watching your child grow is something to experience and you will cherish every moment.

is there any family that can help you?

if you have to rely on a child care provider, I would start looking for one now. they are hard to come by. ask around, friends, co workers....they have advice.

I wish I can take away your fears, but truth is, those fears that you have right now, will turn into caring, loving, nuturing, protecting

all the things a good mother can be.

Have fun! and good luck!!

This is scary, but don't panic. Let her take the test. Don't start worrying until you see that test is positive. Condoms don't always work. It's not smart to only use condoms. You want to use that, plus another type of contraceptive to be safer. Sometimes, using the Morning After Pill won't work. They have to be used correctly. If not, things will go the opposite way. If the test is positive, you need to take the responsibily. Yes, it is her decision is she wants to keep the child or not. Just stand by her. That's what she will need most. And, yes, if it is positive, you both must tell your parents. You can't just simply hide that fact that she is pregnant. The situation needs to get taken care of properly. Think about what's best for her and that child. If the test is negative, you may jump for joy. Just know that you two need to use more than condoms. I suggest and recommend that you guys research safe sex tactics. Even better? Go to a doctor in your free time and ask about it. Yes, it's money, but at least you will know what to do. It's better than learning "tricks" off the streets or from friends. Please, believe me. Also, if you want to lower risks of getting pregnant, try foreplay or whatever else. There are other ways to be satisfied. "Playing with each other" is fine, but try not to have actual intercourse all the time if you guys are so worried. I tell teens this all the time. You won't believe how many kids say, "OMG! I am worried that I am pregnant!" And I tell girls (and guys): If you are SO worried, stop having sex. Problem solved. I don't mean to sound aggressive, but I just don't understand why people keep doing these things and they cry about it later. I am not saying this is you, I am just saying it happens a lot with others, especially younger people who are naive to all the things that come with having sex. If you really want to have sex, just make sure you use more than condoms. Again, I suggest you go to a doctor and learn all you can about contraceptives and such. Best of luck!

Every pregnant woman has those fears. Just try to relax and remeber that this is something women have been doing for thousands of years without the benefit of hosptials and doctors. The mothering instinct will come naturally. Dont worry about there not being a father. Many women raise children as a single parent. Just be organized and ready for ALOT of selfless hard work.

Good luck

I can recommend 2 good books for you to start reading NOW!!

I think that they will help you feel more confident & prepare for anything.

You should know that most of it will come naturally. It was hard for me because it seemed like when I most needed my husband he always had to leave for work. I just kept telling myself that this child is a blessing & I was just going to try my best to do it as best as I could.

The Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg

Ther Happiest baby on the Block Dr. Harvey Karp

I am married but I pretty much did it all on my own because my husband works many hours a day. I didn't have my mom, sisters or grandmothers, cousins or friends to help me.

The two books sometimes contradict each other I did what worked for me. I think that I did an excellent job my son sleeps all night (3yrs) & is well behaved.

your body is made to give birth- it will know what to do. just make sure you have your decisions made about how you want to give birth. being able to get up and walk around during labour can help the process, as gravity helps move the baby down the birth canal and your muscles aren't fighting against it. the doctors who are there to help you, or the midwife, if that is your preference, will help you know what to do. you might want a friend there to help keep you calm. remember that pain is normal and natural and accept it- just let it happen and remind yourself that what you are doing is something that has happened billions of time through history and the body is designed to do.

calm down, hon- many children are fatherless and raised by their mothers and do just fine. love your child, join an online parenting community for support if you have that option, or find a local parent support circle if your community has one.

you will be alright, you just have to believe in yourself and stay strong. you have proven strength by being willing to have a child on your own. now keep that resolve up while you go through with childbirth and raise your child and you will be alright.

blessed be-

~anna.

All good mothers worry about being a good mother, which puts you in fine company.

You need to put some positive ideas about childbirth in your mind. You will do the best you can do with what you have been given, just like the rest of the moms. Remember first time mothers need up to 42 weeks and longer to fully develop.

Here are some secrets to having a great birth:

http://web.mac.com/pregnancysecrets/Site/Childbirt...

You'll be fine girl =-). You need to stop thinking about the process of givng birth becaue you'll phyc yourself out. My daughter's biological father didnt want to be part of her life either. I am married to a wonderful man that assumes the role as daddy to her. Ask your mom, a sister, or a friend to come and stay with you when you have the baby. My mom stayed with me for a whole week and showed me what to do. Just the fact that you are worried about being a good mother shows that you care and you want to be a good one. Good luck, it will be okay, I promise!!!!

Try to relax. It is perfectly normal to have all these mixed emotions when your due date gets nearer. You are going to do alright the baby won't get stuck your doctor won't let that happen to you. Just know that there are many women out there that raise children without a father and they do the best that they can with what they have. You will be one of these strong women and you child will be taken care of.

relax girl you have to relax because its not good for the baby if u worry. think positive and that everything will be ok thats what i do. im 14 weeks pregnant and the father doesnt want to be in the picture so i know how u feel just relax and pray everything will be fine, eat well and stay positive best of luck !

you will do just fine...dont get too worried about it...as soon as you see your baby for the first time...you will know that you will want to protect it and do anything for it.... the baby wont get stuck, that is why they monitor the baby very closely in the last couple of weeks... good luck....try not to worry about it..you will do great.