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Ladies is my sex drive normal?
My husband and I have always been complete opposites when it comes to sex. He is the first person I've ever been with and after I figured out exactly what to do in bed that led to amazing sex I want him all the time. I've always heard about men wanting it all the time which I guess I've found out in the real world this is a stereotypical statement. We have been together for 6yrs married for 5 and it seems that I would be totally OK with doing it everyday. 3-4 times a week is totally OK too but with his job and his hours (he gets up at 5am and gets home about 5pm, he does carpentry) he's tired when he gets home not only that we've had to stay at his mom's and she's a lot of added stress so it's been like 2-3 times a month! My question is, is it normal for me to want my husband soo much after being together that long even when I am tired or stressed out I still want him but he is the total opposite? I mean nothing lowers my sex drive not even the pill. Is something wrong with me?
28 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Nothing is wrong with you hun. Lets just say, now that you finally figured how sweet candy can be..you've become sweet toothed. Its only natural! Im usually more highly sexed then most men i'v dated including my current boyfriend. Thats only because i found it to be a great stress reliever and it gives an overwhelming sense of love and admiration from my partner. Basically the core of all women's sanity.
I can understand you husbands predicaments. You see most women are easily turned on provided the intention is on the right track. Our mind is the switch. But most men are visual, and thats why they kinda get off track on sex with their WIVES after some time cause they are looking at the same thing 24/7. Thats the same reason we spend so much on dressin up. Long work hours and live-in mother is just secondary. He just has trouble coping. Whilst you on the other hand is simply craving for the pleasures of a marriage! So don't try to lower your sex drive. Infact get creative. The wilder the creativity, the often the sex!
Good Luck!
- me...Lv 51 decade ago
OMG i know what you are going though trust me I am the same way love to have sex and only got it maybe at first the 1st 10 yrs of Marriage was like 3-4 times a week and trust me I wanted it 2 a day no lie once I realized what it was like to really start to enjoy sex that all I thought about it killed me! now never have it and would still love it maybe 3times a day! so you are normal as ever! Just Married to the wrong man like I am!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
There's nothing "wrong" with your sex drive at all, i was once the same but kids got in the way of that lol.
Your husband really should be a little more giving in the bedroom, yes he is very tired, that's completely understandable but twice a week wouldn't be to much to ask. Speak to him about "compromise" it's the most important thing about marriage.
- sadie_oyesLv 71 decade ago
Suprise him with a romantic intimate evening...
Beforehand, set up the bathroom, draw a bath, light candles, a bottle of wine on ice, wine glasses and some chocolate, make something for dinner that you can bake in the oven, when he gets home be in the kitchen just finishing up preparing the dish, wearing lingerie, he will be so surprised and excited, he will want to devour you right there, tantalize him, only give him a slight hug and light kisses, (pop the dish in the oven) take him by the hand and lead him to the bathroom, undress him and let him touch and kiss you and take off the lingerie, take a bath together, drinking wine and eating chocolate telling him he means everything to you and how much you love him, wash each other, touching, kissing...proceed to the bedroom.
(you might want to turn off the oven)
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- Kym MLv 61 decade ago
Nothing is wrong with you. Actually you are lucky. I have a thyroid condition which has made me loose my sex drive which upsets me as there is nothing I can do about it. Hubby gets disappointed with me and he works 2 jobs 6 days a week from 7am til 5.30pm weekdays and 6am til 1pm weekends and I have just gone back to work. We have been together for 16 yrs and married for 14 yrs and have 5 kids and live with my mother-in-law while she is ill with my 19 yr old niece. So needless to say time together let alone time for sex is getting more difficult. I would just talk to your hubby and tell him you want him and I think once he realises that he will change his attitude. Good luck. :)
- 1 decade ago
Sweety, there is nothing wrong with you and your hubby needs to understand that you are an absolute jewel. One that is hard to come by. In my experience, the women that I have dealt with think it is a right of passage to forget about sex after they are married. All the stuff they used to do when you were dating gets kicked to the wayside ater the "I Do's." I would love to get 2-3 times a week and you want it daily. Hopefully he will see what a gem you are and you may want to get out of his mom's house for a weekend getaway and rock his world for the entire time you are away. That would definitely be a major turn on for me.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
There are some people - and I am one of them - who are very sexually-active ... We can't help it; we were created this way! ...
However, the first thing you should do is to ask your husband to either move out his mother's house or to see that he attends to your sexual-needs ... Tell him that you are not satisfied with "2-3 times a month", that you need more ... Confess to him that you crave for Sex; that you got married to have Sex first; that you were not a loose woman to have sex with anyone (when you were single); that Sex plays an important part in one's life ... After all, that is what marriage is and means!
- 1 decade ago
Your sex drive is normal, but is your partner okay>? I'm abit curious cause my ex use to get up at 5.30am and never got home till sometimes after 6.30pm..and his drive was always always ready..even after 8 years he was like up and goo..... had to have it... So I would if anything ask your partner if things are alright... Pass on the whole living with the mom thing..I wouldn't want to go there either...
- 1 decade ago
You are completely normal. Your husband is a lucky guy! Try to plan a much needed vacation, ..just the 2 of you! Until then, show him affection and kind words, maybe try giving him a massage!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Haha you've got to be kidding me. I can't go 2 days without sex and I am only 19. Either tell him to quit his job or move out of his mom's house and get it all day!