Where did you meet the friends you hang around with now?

At work

The Friends I Hang About With Now Are Mainly The Ones I Greww Up With..

Im Not Really In Contact With Any From Primary Schooll..

But Iv Got Alot More Friends Are Secondary..

Just About To Start Our Last Year..

And All We Seem To Talk about Is If Were Gunna Keep In Contact..

All of my friends that I hang around with now I met while doing civic theater. I even met my husband while doing the show "Fiddler on the Roof"!! I started doing shows the summer after I graduated from high school--26 years ago.

I don't keep in touch with anyone from primary school, and only one person from high school. Over the years, people have just faded away. Most everyone I was friends with moved away after high school/college, and I guess as we grew older our ties weren't strong enough to keep us in contact. I have one friend from college I still am very close with.

Maybe doing theater isn't for you...if you have another hobby or interest you feel strongly about and you can join a group of other like-minded people, I'd say that's the best way to make friends when you're an adult. It's true--it gets harder to make friends the older you get, that's what I've found. I only made friends with people at work a couple of times, and those didn't last after I left the job. I don't like hanging around with people I work with--when I'm away from work, I want to be totally away from it.

Don't lose hope. Just get out there and keep trying.

Don't lose hope. I was similar to you at school win my relations with others, (some 20+ years ago! Where does the time go?) I am not in touch with any of my friends from school or Poly (the equivalent of a Uni historically!). My wife believes that God directs us in and out of others' lives as we are needed. I do not know about that, but have to admit that I have more friends now than I ever had. I think the trick may be to learn from previous mistakes and do not be frightened of admitting them. I concede now that I was a "right git" when I was younger; a know-it-all and obnoxious. I try not to make the same mistakes, just new ones. Lol

The guy who answered above me is spitting some real knowledge... and i share your pain. ITS NOT JUST YOU!! Many women coming out of school find it very hard to form good friendships. Your friends from college/university, and the friends you meet at work are the relationships that tend to last in our adult life. Friends from middle school and highschool tend not to last because someone looses interest along the way, or both of you start leading separate lives that really dont relate.Its a sad but true reality- many women will tell you that even in their middle aged lives, they do not have many close female friends...

...Some dont have any friends at all. Women become very catty and individualized with age which makes it harder for them to connect or be friendly with other women. Im not saying this for you to feel bad, I just want to you to see the truth so that you can make wise choices. A good way for you to meet friends is by putting a full description of yourself and the kind of friend your looking for on www.craigslist.com. Its cut and dry. Just be real about yourself and somebody that matches your criteria will contact you. I met some decent people on this site to hang with when i was losing hope just like you...good luck sweety :)

I still have friends in my hometown, but since I'm living several states away now it's hard to keep in touch. Some of us have known each other since preschool, though, so we'll probably always be in contact.

My group of friends now at college are great. We lived on the same floor for two years, and now I'm renting an apartment with some of them. I've never had a lot of trouble making friends, though, so I don't know what to tell you other than to just go somewhere like a coffee shop or something and meet people. Don't be shy, just introduce yourself and find something - music, movies, etc. - in common to talk about.

It's never too late unless you're dead.

Every stage of life brings a new group of people into your life,and while I was very close to certain people at every stage, the ones where the bonds were the strongest are the ones I've met through work. Life happens and you lose common ground with the ones you go to school with. There are exceptions- my closest friend has been with me since we were 5 years old-I'm 37 now!

I met some of them from primary school and some from secondary school, and again some from college.

It depends on whom you're friends with. If you have a true friend, they'll keep in touch with you for years to come.

Don't lose hope, just find a job which you enjoy - and try to make friends with them there. Don't be shy, don't try to hard. Just be yourself.

I met my best 3 best friends in band when I swiched schools.

I met them sophomore year of high school

If you are really close, most will stay in touch.

Its not hopeless, because you could find someone shy like you to talk to. Go around town to coffee shops, the mall, or the park and possibly strike up a conversation with someone. Don't be shy because many people are afraid of talking to others, but a good conversation could lead to a great friendship.

Mine were mainly college and uni. But I know some people who only met most mates at work. Only way is to do loads of things like gym, sport or hobby and meet people with similar tastes. Everyone feels like that sometime but you will look back at some point and laugh that you felt like that

I have kept exactly two friends from my school days - one from high school and one from college. Don't fret not keeping more - personalities change as you grow up and friends from school tend to, usually though not always, grow apart. I have a solid core of girlfriends that I met at work years ago. Left the job, kept them, though we do have to work at it. A friend I adore at my present job. An amazing group of friends I've picked up from years on the internet in writing groups (went though a heck of a lot of people to find the gems I've got now). Several in the military. And a group I get together with every Tuesday to hang out with - met at a hobby shop, 'cause we share a hobby. Those are my core group of 'go to the wire for me, always lend an ear or hand, contact me if I go missing' group. That's not counting friendly acquaintances and family.

You don't need a lot of friends, you just need a core group you can count on. You can pick them up anywhere but they're hard to find. Once you're out of school you have to rely on your own choices more. When you get your next job, give it a shot. Join a class at the local college learning something you enjoy. Get involved in your church. Visit stores that sell things you do for fun and see if they've got activities organized. Volunteer for a charity. Use a tour group the next time you go on vacation. You've got to get out and be available to meet enough new people to find friends. And you've got to be open to it too. Forget fitting in - its a losing game. You don't make friends being what you think they want, you make friends with people that enjoy the same thing you already do. You make friends by making people feel comfortable around you - stop self-focusing and simply be interested in who they are. Friendship is a two way street - you're supposed to like them, its not just a matter of them liking you. Relax, be friendly and cheerful, and ask them to talk about themselves. If this isn't your usual personality, fake it. People who work in sales or with the public do it all the time. Once you fake it often enough you'll find you actually enjoy being friendly and it won't be just for show anymore. And once you get those first few friends, they'll introduce you to their friends. Who will introduce you to their friends....