Gave birth to stillborn at 33 weeks, now pregnant again and scared.?

I do know exactly how you feel.

I had a stillborn last June and am now pregnant 20 weeks with another baby. I feel your fear. I have to say my doctor was a life saver when it came to my worries. My current pregnancy is considered high risk now so I am in and out of the doctors office often. They are also running every test imaginable to make sure everything is OK with this one (as far as they can tell) I have been in for 3 ultrasounds and have another one coming up in 2 weeks.

My doctor also said if I ever feel the need to come in and listen to the baby's heartbeat, for my own peace of mind, to just come in. Things are getting better for me as far as the feeling of nervousness the further along I get. I keep track of my babies kicks and smile out of the blue. I don't think that fear will ever leave you until you have this baby, but it will get a little less intense.

Who knows..maybe after you have this baby it will help you get over that empty arms feeling just a little bit.

Good Luck with this pregnancy and Congrats!

If you ever need to talk e-mail me. I am always here.

first off, wow I am so sorry. I know no words can ever take away that kind of loss, and I know there is no one that will ever replace that particular baby 4u, but try to not compare this preganncy to the other one. as hard as it is to believe, it is very rare to have two stillborns esp. consecutively. The dorctors bc of your history will regard your pregnancy as high-risk and therefore will see you more often instead of once a month every 2 week, and then around 28 weeks once a week. They will probably do more ultrasounds on you and non-stress tests than they would normally just to be cautionary. also, if the reason was determined, or cause of death, they will closely watch out for things similar like low fluid etc.

Even for people that have never been pregnant b4, there is always the worry/fear of this happening. I am due in 9 days and though am much more faithful now, there was for a long time a fear something would go wrong with my pregnancy as this is my very 1st. I just had to try to think positive.

My father was born after a stillbirth. His mother got pregnant just several months after losing the stillborn son, with my dad, and he was born fine, and this was back in the 1950s before they had all this technology like ultrasounds to monitor the baby in high-risk pregnancies.

I believe that the dr.'s will take good care of you and your baby and pregnancy bc of your history and that way nothing bad will happen to your baby this time.

again I am really sorry for your loss of your 1st child. and please dont feel bad for trying to be positive about this pregnancy and not compare it to the last.

I don't think that there are words to help in these situations. I couldn't imagine how you must have felt then and how you are coping today. If I was in your shoes I would try my very very best to take my pregnancy one day at a time so as not to stress myself or worry any more than a regular pregnancy. I'm very sorry for the loss you went through but stay strong and keep focusing on the positive. All the best to you and your family.

my mom did, well not actually a still birth but she only lived a few hours.......she said that second pregnancy was the scariest time of her life but it turned out fine........she went on to have 2 normal pregnancies after the death of her first. Did you have an autopsy done? Do you know what happened? I am sorry for your loss. We still visit my sisters grave she would be 38 now. You never get over it but life goes on with or witout you. My mom said it was very healing to have 2 healthy babies afterwards, not as replacements but to help heal.......I will pray for you........

i am very sorry for your loss but you have to remember things happen for a reason and maybe just maybe it wasnt meant for that precious little girl to walk this earth.but in fact god her sent her to you so that she was just in your life to teach you something you follow me.but now god has blessed you with this child because this child just has to be on this earth.you cant live your life worrying to much because you may make yourself have a misscarriage from worrying all the time i know your other child can never be replaced but be greatful that your having a second chance some of us dont get that second chance enjoy the feeling the moment and goodluck and congratulations

Hi. Congrats on baby! So sorry for your loss. I have experienced one myself. I have not yet got pregnant again but I have talked to other mother's who have. They tell me you never stop worrying and it is just something you learn to accept.

We have a message board with other preggo moms who have had a loss (and moms who are ttc and other moms of a loss). It might help to talk with them.

hobh.org/forums

oh my god. i'm so sorry! i think my grandma or great grandma had a stillborn birth, but had 3 perfectly healthy babies afterword. hope i helped!

1st lemme say u scared the helll out of me cause now i think my babys gonna be stillborn, but im very sorry to hear about that, what caused the baby to die? u should talk to ur Dr and work on takin steps twards helping this babys chances if there r any preventive methods . good luck

congratulation's on the new baby and sympathy on the previous one

oh my goodness, god bless you. I am so sorry. Have faith that this little bundle of joy is the one who will make all those worries go away. Enjoy your pregnancy and ill be praying for you. :)

I read your question it made me cry.

I will hope for the best for you & your pregnancy.

Sorry I cannot help : (