Best way to tell my boyfriend I want to wait for sex?

you have got to be so honest with him.

it sounds like he might be pushing you. if you don't want to have sex you don't want to have sex. if he's not ok with that, get rid of him because it sounds like your whole relationship is based on it. and from what i gather, you're not ready to have sex with anyone. you need to take care of yourself before doing that with someone. you're more important than anyone.

also, i know guys who are 24+ and haven't even had sex with 4 girls. i wouldn't not want to be with a guy whose been with that many girls. it's slutty.

i also wouldn't put myself through a relationship with someone who i'm afrid is going to cheat on me simply because i won't have sex with him. wouldn't you rather be with someone who loves you for you? not sex?

Definitely not a good enough reason to put out; as you say.

You're aware of your own need for some form of cleansing of your soul, from past unwanted bad sexual experiences.

If your man does not understand or if you feel unable to take him into your confidence, then perhaps you could be taking on more than you are ready for in having a relationship ~ at this time.

Give yourself time to breathe, and keep your own standards.

If he is unwilling to allow for what is important to you, then I would face the fact that if he is in a hurry, then it may be that this particular relationship is beyond what you can easily experience and let it go.

You cannot make his decisions FOR him.

Well you really have to tell him that your scared of getting mistreated and hurt. If he cares about you, he won't go off and have sex with another girl. Don't stress about it, and just tell him. You don't want to feel pressured to do something you're not ready to do. Just tell him about whats happened to you, and the fact that you're scared of it happening again. Even if he says he won't treat you like that, tell him you're not ready, and wait till you are. If he does not want to listen hook up with some one else.

I agree with everyone... it's a no brainer. Be honest and tell him your fears and why you are NOT ready.

But it's also time for you to do some healing from the past. It just won't go away all on it's own. Please see a counselor, therapist, professional to help you heal from the past. Better now than latter. This is about you feeling better.

Have you explained why you want to wait for sex? If things are really serious between the two of you just be honest with him. If he doesn't make an effort to understand, or goes off to have sex with some one else he is not worth it.

If he's putting that much pressure on you to generate fear in you for whatever reason, then he is not worth a nickel. Pressure is not love. Guilt trips are not from love. Kindness, gentleness, understanding, patience......these are love. What is it that you desire from a relationship? That's an important question to answer for now and for the future. Once you are settled with your own answer, then you can make better decisions as to what is reasonable and nonreasonable to ask another human being. Love involves making choices which will not harm the one you love. This guy sounds like he's harming you, so I question his worthiness for you. Just a thought.

I was in the same situation, I gave in and regretted it later.

If he can't wait and goes off to get it elsewhere, then he's not the right person for you. Most likely wiether u do or not, if he is that type of guy, he will find it elsewhere when he's bored anyway, which is what happened with me. If he cares he'll wait....6months, a year or longer.

Well you really have to tell him that your scared of getting mistreated and hurt. If he cares about you, he won't go off and have sex with another girl. Don't stress about it, and just tell him. You don't want to feel pressured to do something you're not ready to do. Just tell him about whats happened to you, and the fact that you're scared of it happening again. Even if he says he won't treat you like that, tell him you're not ready, and wait till you are. Good Luck! =)

Don't be the link to his chain. Aretha Franlin sung it best. So what, he had sex with other girls, that only means you will be added to the list. Tell him to eat his own tale and tell him he can go to hell. A real man would respect you. Besides if he has had that many females how do you know that you may be one of his girlfriend and he has others at the same time.

Tell him that you've been hurt in the past and you're still insecure. If he really loves you he'll understand and wait a year. If not he may just be using you for sex.

Tell him, "if you love me, you'll wait till I am ready."

afterwards, mention about your past experience, hoping he'll understand you. Sit with him and talk about it. Also use a soft, caring tone so he knows that you are really serious about it. I know it's tough. You're not ready to move forward, but at the same time, you are scared that he'll find someone else when he gets impatient.

Good luck =)