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swordarkeereon
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swordarkeereon asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

So what would you do?

Months ago an online friend of mine (we've been online friends for about 2.5 years now) asked if she and a traveling companion (another woman) could come out and stay with my husband and I for a weekend. I said yes, rearranged my plans, made plans with some of our other friends here in town, and even took vacation days so I could show her around and hang out with her. It was supposed to be this coming weekend. So Monday I asked for a confirmation of what time I was supposed to pick them up at the train station and suddenly I got a, "Well, about that -- there were some unforseen problems. I'll tell you about them later." She didn't give me a number of where she's staying so I am stuck e-mailing her (I have a bad feeling that she never intended on telling me she was canceling at all). In the last e-mail I told her to let me know one way or another (soon!) because people changed their schedules for her weekend here to happen. I got the read-receipt so I know she got it.

Update:

So now I know she's just avoiding me. What would you do in a situation like this?

Update 2:

I mean - obviously at this point we've cancelled the plans. My husband said "It's just plain rude for someone to be noncomittal after you have set time aside for them." I mean - should I say something ? Should I send her a letter with my thoughts about her rudeness? Should I even bother taking her calls after this?

Update 3:

Kallan - thank you. This is perhaps some of the best advice I've received on this matter. Thank you.

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  • Kallan
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    I think it would be alright to email and simply say, " I went through a lot to have you come visit. I rearranged plans, took vacation days, made plans for friends to meet you, etc... I'm sorry something came up. I just wish you'd have communicated that with me earlier. I am not sure how you see things, but where I come from, it's kind of rude to do this to a friend."

    Then, delete her. This person IS avoiding you if you got a read-receipt. I'm sorry you went through this, but look at it as a lesson learned, and don't go to this kind of trouble for someone you really don't know well.

    Hugs to you.. still go hang out with those friends and enjoy those vacation days!

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