My girlfiend wants us to buy a house together?

I agree with you renting with her. My worry is why does she want you to put all your equity into a joint house, she is not contributing, and still keeping her own house????? alarm bells are ringing for me! I think that's a f***in cheek. do not buy with her till you know how it works living in rented together. and if it works and you buy together she should put her equity in too. It's less of a problem if you are not married, cohabittees have no rights, so long as you have the property in your sole name then she will only be entitled to the money she's put in if she's lucky, but if you're married then it's the matrimonial home and you will be screwed!

sorry, but I think she sounds a right selfish cow and not only wanting you to use all your equity, you also have to move closer to her family. I can understand living closer to her family to some degree but is she ever gonna compromise in something. Be aware of her hormones but be even more aware of hormones being used as an excuse. think long term and don't give in.

The first thing to bear in mind, is she is pregnant so that might explain for her change of attitude.

I think it's unfair that you should be selling yours and she isn't. It would be a shame to welcome into the world yet another single parent child, but if worst came to worst I would suggest NOT selling your house. It is unreasonable that she can keep her own house and you can't. Consider a joint mortgage (if funds are available) for another property inbetween (a very small one) if she's really mindfixed.

Otherwise, in your situation I would simply admit to her that you have concerns about the longterm and say that renting would be best for a year. Depending on where you live, that may be around £800 (UK sterling) a month, multiply that by 12 at that would be an estate agent fee anyway!

It's a shame that she got pregnant though. I guess it could go two ways:

- She could become mentally stable after giving birth.

- The stress of taking care of the child gives her more stress.

I also wonder, how can she (afford to) keep her original house if she's generally looking after a brand new baby?

My 2 pence :-)

Man...you have to read your own question back to yourself....all the answers are already in it....let me help you...'i have deep worries about buying a place together'....'i would be selling my house'.....'she wants to keep her own house'....'we are not getting along lately'....'increasingly irrational and unfair'....'i would stand to lose a lot more'.....shall i go on, or have you got your answer?

part of me wants to tell you off for bringing a baby into this situation...but i wont....it takes 2 to tango and she obviously wanted this....but you cant go forward with her if its all wrong....live together? give up your own home.....? tell her you cant....tell her you have too many worries about it.....if 2 people want to do the whole 'lets have a baby and buy a house and live as 1 big happy family' then i think thats bloomin lovely, but your situation just doesnt sound like that....to sumerize...my thoughts are dont do it....good luck with everything.

Was she unreasonable and you both not getting along before she fell pregnant or is this a recent thing? If the relationship is not in a good way, I really wouldn't buy a house right now with her.

Also, not very fair that *she* gets to keep her house yet you are made to sell yours! Relationships are give and take, not just 'take'.

If you don't want to say no to her outright, tell her you had your house valued and the valuation was so low it means you would not be able to afford a decent sized property.

You seem to have a 'sensible' head on you about your situation and I agree that renting would be a 'safer' option for you both considering you both currently own homes... you could always choose to sell up and buy later on, once you have lived together for a bit (and once the baby comes along - things will drastically change!)... if you are having problems now, then it would be wise to cover all options.

Her 'irrationality' with the situation could be down to her hormones though (pregnancy can do that to a woman!) - although you would know if this is the case or not ;o)

Good luck with whatever you decide, and the birth of your child ;o)

You seem to have problems at the moment so should not do anything in a rush. I would also suggest that if you are going to buy a house you should both sell the ones you have and make it a true joint house. I think you need to look at where this is all going first.

I can understand your concerns. She is being very unreasonable, but she is pregnant and her hormones must be raging.

I wouldn't go ahead with buying a house together. If things are a bit rocky and unstable you might find yourself in an awful situation if things turn out negatively.

Unless you are married, she could end up with everything and you'll have little or nothing.

She should sell her home and move closer to her parents.

Good luck.

xx

Are you planning on getting married any time soon?

No?

There's your answer.

If you ARE planning on getting married, don't buy the house until AFTER the marriage certificate arrives in the mail, and make sure that your prenup (you're gonna need it by the looks of things) states that any and all investments made by each of you must be returned percentage for percentage. If you put in 75%, you GET BACK 75%. Oh. And she sells her house.

She sounds like trouble to me, no one should be that unreasonable, i know shes pregnant and going through the homones, but this is just over the top. Its completely selfish, why should she keep her house and expect you to sell yours and pay mostly towards her 2nd house, and then she has the bottle to say that you're the one being unreasonable. You're right to be wary, you're not being negative you're just using common sense and i think you should stick to what you feel is right

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