Which is more important.....?

Being to work on time,get in your car,drive to his house,hook up jumper cables to his nipples,start your car,hook u the positive o the positive,then hook on the negative side to his left nipple,don't hook it up to the battery,yet...wait a few minutes,then hook it up to his nipple...

seriously?

a daily chore usually can be done at any point during the day... so can't you do it after?

second: what the hell? why would you (an adult married woman) not be ALLOWED to go to work? I am sure you need the money, so being late a lot would be a problem for sustained employment.

No one would keep me from work if I needed to be there because of something like a chore. Now if a kid gets sick or spouse is sick and i need to take the kids to school or doctor- well then yes that would keep me from work. but that's not a daily chore.

if your husband is that controlling, you have bigger issues than missing work.

Well here goes, 1st I will have to say that employer's expect employees to be there on time and and to stay there until the work day ends barring some emergency situation that may come up (even these do not need to be very often). When you chose that job as a career and that employer chose you both of you were thinking long term. That particular job has a work history that can and will follow you long term so even if you may be in a position to no longer need this particular job you may very well need a positive reference later own. That is your personal history and your spouse will never play a part in it. So you might want to consider all the options here. As far as your spouse requireing chores to be done prior to your work schedule you may advise them if it is that important they might want to go ahead and do them as your priority is to be at work on time. Chores can be handled when you return for the day and since you work too you may want to require some assistance from them. Hope this helps.

Your daughter is 17, she is almost an adult and if she can manage a job she can manage laudry. Laundry takes forever to wash dry and put away. He needs to know that if he doesn't stop being so unreasonable she could get in trouble with her job. But he needs to hear that from his daughter and not you, i think he would take it from her better since you are his ex and he probably has all sorts of grudges against you.

I also dont think calling him and getting in a huge arguement would help either (as much fun as that sounds..lol)

It's kind of like getting in the middle of your daughter and ex's arguement while putting your daughter in the middle of you and her dad's problems as well, which is never good. I know that you are just doing that in your daughter's defense and it really sucks enough for her allready that her dad is being a jerk about laudry.

The only thing you can really do is have your daughter talk to him and say whats more important, job or laundry? Plus tell her she will be 18 before you know it, she doesnt have to put up with his crap any longer.

good luck! hope it works out

Going to work is far more important than doing a chore. Does her father not go to work because he hasn't mowed the lawn or taken out the trash?? I think not, how about the shake up on the hill he lives with? No one has ever had that much control over me. I would never allow it. I understand that she is a minor but has he thought that she will soon be an adult? Then what he says or does will not matter to her any more. Will she stay in his life? I believe she might acknowledge him on his birthday, Father's Day and Christmas. It will give him time to see where he went wrong. If you give him enough time and rope he will hang himself. Good luck to you.

If someone has to go to work and they are not there on time then their job could be in jeopardy. If the chore is something that has to be done then you can both do it when you are both at home. A chore that has to be done can always wait until later. No chore is worth losing a job over.

you have to look at it in this respect - work is a chore that starts at a certain time and is the main chore that provides for everything else, so getting to it on time is critical. Every other chore is secondary.

My priority would be getting to work on time. Should your spouse choose to replace your paycheck with a weekly allowance, tell him you would be more than happy to make sure your "chores" are done daily.

Nothing worse than a controlling spouse. Ugh!

No - that sounds ridiculous - can't go to work because you didn't do a chore? I would think the "chore" could wait until after work.

Chore are never more important than a job, that's where the money comes from!

Being at work on time.