i think i totally messed up! i'm in the friend zone and want OUT. [guys && girls help]?

Honestly, what I find really attractive in a girl is when she is all over me. She wants my attention and she constantly wants to hang out with me. And that makes me feel emotionally closer to that girl and become more socially committed to her. When I discover that a girl needs my attention, I begin to yearn for hers also. Maybe your friends now, but I it doesn't seem like you're stuck in the friend zone. It's better to become friends first and get to know each other before entering into a hasty relationship. But yes, I definately think you have a chance. My preference in a girl though is this: when a girl shows devotion to me, I return the favor and find myself constantly thinking about her and just wanting to interact with her. Don't act shy, act confident, but definately don't play hard to get. Don't obsess over him openly by texting him too much, but portray your interest by texting him enough so that he realizes you would like to move your relationship up to a new level. Good luck and I hope everything works out the best for you.

All very excellent questions. First of all you need to be yourself before you do the shy thing. The reason is you need him to fall in love with the real deal. If you change yourself, the real deal will come along and he will leave you. Now, texting, don't!!! only text maybe once a day 2 times a week. Something like, "hey handsome how you doing? just thinking of you, have a great day! : ) hugs Em" that direct communication with no obligations, no confusion, non-threatening. Then if you really need to text more find some fun, good jokes, not more than twice a week. Always smile when you see him. be happy do happy things, your aura will attract him, and everyone else. If he bust the move set your boundaries, hand holding only for 2 weeks, holding 1 week more, than kissing, on and on. OK email me if you need more help. Best wishes Emerald

Ah, the Friend Zone. The place where you think you might be when your female crush starts talking about how hot the guy in her math class is. The place where that guy you're crushing on puts you when he starts belching loudly and scratching himself in front of you, and then pals around with you like you're one of the guys. Want to know if you're in the Friend Zone, or if the guy or girl you like also feels butterflies when you lock eyes? See Step 1 to be on your way to finding out the truth

Tough, because the thing is being confident and cocky attracts girls right, and the guys who have the game figured out right will know this but guys who don't will be confident around their friends and attract them but screw up around the girls they like, so basically if you think he is the sorta guy who gets all the girls he wants he could be after you, but if he doesn't get the girls he wants your definately in the friend catagory, if you are then what you do is stop talking to him for 5-6 months, then be sexy and flirty and everything but if this screws up then you lose a friendship possibly

Alright, last year around this time.. I liked this guy, and he liked me. but I was way too shy and he lost interest. don't be shy. i still like him...and he's lost interest. i'm trying hard to get over him. be yourself, i wish i would have done it from the beginning. ANYWAYS.

you should start dropping hints to him. If he doesn't seem interested.. you need to forget it. and move on. If you dont make progress soon, you'll be right where I am. You don't want this girl.

Good luck!

okay ima guy and no you havent screwed up AT ALL!

ok a few things.

1.guys love the chase but dont make it too hard or hell give up.

2.drop some hints along the way.

3.when you feel comfortable enough ask him if he likes you.

4.give friendly hugs WE LOVE IT!

5.and dont be the one to end a conversation, if he likes u that will suck for him.

6.hope this helps!

You're over analyzing it. If a woman wants out of the "friends zone" all she has to do is flirt. There's no way you'll get a harsh, shutdown type rejection like a guy might get.

I have always been aggressive when i see a guy i want i go for it. I feel i have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I have never been turned down, and a matter of fact most guys told me that it was a pleasant surprise. Girl, go get your man tell him how you feel and that you want him. Why play games?

Just be yourself. Don't change your call or text patterns because he will start to think you have a problem with you. Just tell him how you feel and see what he says. Don't put yourself out there too much though, you don't want him to think he has power over you. Don't inflate his ego.

dont nessicarily ignore him but being a little shy helps i knew this one girl kept giving me these signals and i would never catch on you know stupid but then she finally came out and said that she liked me but he could just be oblivious like i was if hes starting the text conversations than he probably likes you Good luck though