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We just had a major fight and I don't know what to do- help!?
Hi
My best friend has started messing around with a guy who's best friends with her ex and is essentially a really horrible messy guy who does horrible things to people- he treats his girlfriends terribly. I told her she needs to be careful and end this before it gets painful and she agreed with me and did. but now they're at it again and I can't help but feel like she's being an idiot. We were talking the other day and she accused me of being uncaring and judgemental. I feel genuinly hurt because over the years I've supported her- when she got dumped by her ex, this horrible guy supported him and not her. I basically spent six months having her stay at my house while she tried to get over it- I've listened to her and been her friend when she was sad, and now I feel so hurt that she could turn around and snap at me. I'm angry and confused and don't know what to do. help!
6 Answers
- RickLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
You can't control what people do, friends or not. Tell her you are going to go on with your life and don't be upset if it doesn't include her as much as it has in the past. Let her know you can't be as good of a friend when it can drag you down emotionally along with her on her ride. Stop including her in your life as much. Maybe she'll get the picture, maybe she won't but at least you can get on with your life.
- ?Lv 71 decade ago
Everybody does the best they can with the tools they have. That lets humans do things that are distinctly not in their own best interests and this seems to be a fine example. I'd hope, were I in your shoes, I'd tell my friend that my caring for them will not end but that this choice doesn't seem sound, I'm sorry he/she is upset and angry, and I hope things turn out well. Leave it at that.
- 1 decade ago
wow. first of all I'd like to say that we need more people like you. people that actually care about their friends. ok but, honestly sometimes as much as it hurts you, your just gonna have to let her learn the hard way. in the end she's going to come running back to you and hopefully you guys will be able to work things out. i hope this helps =]
- JTFLv 41 decade ago
yea the jerk illness rubs off to the guirl some times. but may i suggest that u hook her up with someone better, that helps alot but it could always back fire. find a sweet guy somewere and introduce her make that nice guy in her life. Like give her the choice to choose.
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- 1 decade ago
Some people learn from their mistakes, some people trust n learn from others' n take their advice..while some just love burning their hands...and in that case there is limited u can do for them!!!
