HELP!!! Marital issues...?

for him it's probably not easy to be in the middle. He probably finds it very uncomfortable to have to choose anyone's side...so he seems to just stay out.....i know never going to his parents house again is not an option...so u have a choice to make u can just be cordial and refrain from discussing anything of value while visiting or u can step up for urself, don't be mean but state ur case to the stepmother alone, have a discussion with her if u feel that the discussion is getting heated walk away and try again at a later date....the step mom may just feel a level of overprotective over her step son or she may have some insecurity issues since she isn't his mom and needs to feel some type of power over his life....u can take it with a grain of salt as it was already suggested or u can take up for urself but the bad thing to do is to continue to try to get ur husband involved because he loves u both and probably wants to see u get along just don't have a solution as to how......

hope things go better for u and her in the future she may be able to give u great advice on family, marriage and being happy...that is if u 2 can ever get over this hump....

If you truly did not hurt the child there was no reason for the outbreak.

In a marriage your wife or husband always comes first, not your parents or inlaws.

I do not know what your husband did or did not do in the scenario ,but he should support you.

It could also be that your husband does not give a rats tail what they have to say and does not want to be bothered with them any more than he has to. Maybe he is not ,not being on your side, maybe he knows his mom is a pain in the butt and does not want to be bothered with her any extra. If she is the type of person who you can't win a fight with anyway, just be peaceful at gatherings and enjoy your husband at home with out their input.

He obviously does not think you harm your child or he would tell you.

properly, first of all congrats on being married for 22 years! you do no longer see that a good purchase anymore. With that being suggested, you will possibly desire to understand that the stressful circumstances come and pass. with the flexibility to compromise and get by this occasion at the same time will make your dating better, besides the incontrovertible fact that it might desire to take years! To compromise however, that takes 2. in the adventure that your husband has no opt to be a team with you, then you definately won't be happy returned! might you talk approximately moving if he got here across a extra valuable, steadier activity? additionally, as for overcoming the financial subject concerns- As ridiculous because it sounds, funds is a huge area in marriage because of the fact a lot of thoughts come from the financial state. yet, working to earn extra funds isn't the only answer. paintings the fee variety and verify what you're able to do with out for a on a similar time as! there are a lot of issues human beings can stay with out. besides, there is not any longer something incorrect with you, there are continuously bumps interior the line, yet your husband might desire to be your convenience once you come back domicile. It seems such as you 2 have grown aside, yet slightly paintings from the two one in all you and you're happy returned. He may additionally get a area time activity till his present day one is safer. additionally, it might help in case you 2 sit down with a lager or bottle of wine one night and suggested each and everything on your minds. i'm hoping this helped, I variety of rambled on and on, lol. stable luck, and in simple terms undergo in concepts that as long because of the fact the the two one in all you're nevertheless keen to paintings at the same time, divorce should not be interior the vocabulary!

He is a mamma's boy. It will never change. You should have seen this before you married him. This isn't something they hide. The mamma cannot let go. She has issues. She will do everything possible to make trouble but be smart enough to let it look like it is you. He will side with her. He will always be a good husband when she is not around. Is moving a long distance away from her an option? That is about the only thing I see as an answer. You might try counseling also.

Good Luck!!!!!

Sit down with your husband and talk privately. You deserve better and he's got to develop some nerve and tell his stepmother to back off. The woman will continue to cause issues. What kind of help do you get from your father? He is really the one to tell her to stop. I don't know how your husband expects you to let it go when he won't support you. Something has to give. I hope you find a way.

I know it is easier said than done, but try to take what your stepmother-in-law says with a grain of salt. Don't let her get to you. I have been in similar situations and have gotten angry also. It has worked out much better for me to just grin and bear it. Then you can go home and have peace in your household. I just got tired of the drama that so many people thrive on.

stepmothers are always great at playing games. and this is why i rarely ever see mine anymore. especially after her last stunt.

anyways....it's a game she's playing and you know that it is. all i can suggest for you is to just stop going over there. you and your son go do something else. and if she wants to make a stink about it, let her. sooner or later she's going to have to "confront" you about not showing up anymore, and that's when you tell her as plain as day that you aren't going to harm her grandson by subjecting him to how she treats you.

Your husband is taking your side because he respects his mother (step-mother) and he knows that she is wrong but he might cannot say anything to her. If he is angry at you then he could have say you so many things but he didnt. So, just keep happy with your husband and try to forgive others. Try to ignore your step-mother-in-law talks or action against you. You will get reward to be good with others. Well, I am Muslim and saying all this because my ISLAM teaches me to behave like this. Be Happy!

I would stay away from her before you know it she will have child protective services at your door and your husband will be siding with his mommy. I would get to a marriage counselor now.

To keep the peace. He probably doesn't want to hear her mouth run, either. Try to stay away from her. She sounds like a real trouble maker.