I don't know why this bothers me so much?

It would appear that you are developing greater feelings for him; more that what was agreed upon. The fact that you wouldn't mind going to the club with a group of friends, but would be bothered if *he* takes you is evidence of this.

Your relationship seems to be fairly casual at this point. Therefore, he may assume that taking you to the club is "no big deal". You mentioned that you don't see each other that often; he may be unaware that such a situation makes you uncomfortable.

Your feelings are real, and valid. Perhaps, you should discuss your feelings about the club with him. But, pick a good time and don't be too confrontational in order to avoid a possible blow-up. He may be unaware about how you feel.

If you talk to him about your feelings, it may also indicate to him that you are clearly becoming much more than friends, so be ready for the next step. Is he ready for the next step also?

Good luck!!

You MUST talk to him! that is important beyond words! And importance should be the ONLY thing beyond words! Everything should be talked about... tell him what you feel, and ask him if thats what you should be feeling.. or if you are taking the relationship the wrong way! If he likes you - alot or a little- he will still understand and should be able to give you a straightforward answer. And if you do not feel comfortable going to a strip club ( i know I wouldnt be) Then you should be able to let him know and he should understand completely. Maybe you should suggest something else, but tell him exactly how you feel! You both need to communicate! Good luck! How old are you btw,? That also makes a difference!

Also, you can answer my question if you want. i'll post the link in another comment.

No due to the fact this can be a lead into get your awareness. What comply with would hassle me. Yours is wise. Don't permit the little matters hassle you. Wait for greater stuff that you'll manage.

Ahhh, I get you here. I have a very close friend who I liked a lot, but knew he only liked me as a friend, even though what we did could be considered more than friends. Long story short, he calls me a few times and talks about his crazy nights at the strip club....Yeah, it bugs the hell out of me and I dont know why. It just does.

Why don't you talk to him about how it makes you feel when he talks to you about going to strip clubs. If you don't like it then he should respect your feelings and leave that subject out of bounds. If you want something more than friends to develop maybe you should talk to him about that too. Afterall, he's the only one who can ideally give you the reassurance you're looking for. Good luck!

Maybe, maybe not. It could simply be you don't relish the idea of being in a strip club.

Oh, just be open-minded about it. Don't be such a baby.