Brother In Law Blues?!?

You have to put your foot down somewhere along the line. Explain to your fiance that you don't mind his little brother being around sometimes but you'd rather he wasn't ALWAYS around? & explain that you feel he uses you & your house x

Been there, done that. I had fought with my fiance, and finally, went and picked up a 12-pack, and behaved identical to the way his brother did. I kept my little cooler next to me, and demanded dinner (I said I was too dizzy to get it), slept and purposely snored in the recliner, beginning at 7 pm, and treated both of them like you know what. Unfortunately, it helped for only a few days. I finally got mad. I owned the house we lived in, and told my fiance, his brother went, or they would both be removed by the police, because I wouldn't put up with it anymore. His brother had come for a visit, 600 miles from home, and just didn't leave.

Also, before another relative moved in, I told him we'd have to wait, because we couldn't afford to run a boarding house for drunks, and that we'd have to wait for a grant to improve the house to be able to run rehabilitation programs. I then announced that anyone who stayed would only be welcome, if they had a full-time job, they couldn't get drunk at our house, and they couldn't smoke at our house.

When he shows up drunk, say, sorry, the bed isn't ready, come on, and I'll drive you home. Good luck! It sounds like they were raised where this is the normal, and it isn't.

You need to put a stop to it now before you get married.

tell him to be a man and stand up to his brother.