what do you do, if anything, when you can't stand your friend's (a very good friend) love interest?

Here are some options:

1. Drink heavily whenever the snob man is around,

and

2. Drink heavily whenever the snob man is around,

.... and that is all I have right now (tired).

And in the meantime, hopefully your friend will accidentally drop her rose-colored glasses, and after they smash and fall apart, hopefully she will see him for his true colors: puke green and poo-poo platter brown.

* cries for your pain *

Sometimes what we view as Phony is indeed Phony but sometimes they act that way because they are uncomfortable.

I have been mistaken for that on several occasions because the people would say things making me uncomfortable. Hence, my response was to bite my tongue and say something nice.

Also, a lot of people think I am a snob just because they do not try to get to know me even after I put myself out there.

Solution: What I say to someone else about a person I will also say directly to the person spoken about. I cannot be 2 faced and have a clear conscience.

Morning sweetie♥

There is nothing you can do. I have been in this situation one too many times. One of my friends ended up marrying the idiot and he got mad at me over something and he's the type who never forgives people and our friendship has just about stopped. She doesn't have anything to do with me anymore. I had another friend and our friendship almost ended by me trying to tell her about the guy she was dating. He broke it off with her and she blamed because he said because of me and his ex wife they couldn't be together. I told my friend if he truly wanted her he wouldn't use such a lame excuse. She didn't believe me but we worked through it. She married someone else half way descent. That guy is still a sore subject for us even though she knows I am right about him. It's a hard call. If you say something it won't do any good. They are going to side with the love interest. From my experiences, I would just keep making up excuses.

I remember in high school, my friend at the time had a girlfriend who I always seemed to make angry, any little thing I did or say, she would start bitching at me, it was very very odd. I had to end up ignoring her, and eventually just stop talking to the guy completely...hmmm...but good friend, I suppose a cheesy movie outcome can occur where the two people have something in common... : /

I am dealing with the same thing, Catz...and it sucks! I don't even want to meet this other person who has ruined a marriage. I know it takes two...but...I just can't get passed what she has done..knowingly. She has a horrible reputation and I can't believe they are trying to make a life together. I wish I could avoid...but...can't.

Yes, ummm, you know how I hate to be sincere, but don't endanger a friendship that MAY someday return by interfering.

Ride it out OR try to remain as close as you can STAND to be while remaining CIVIL at worst with this person you reject. It may be possible - just possible - to find some merit in her and grow to like her. There ARE worse traits than snobbery.

ANYTHING to SAVE a friendship!

I didn't even make up excuses. By that point (in my situation) the ***** had driven all his other friends away. My friend wasn't an idiot: he chose her over some of his oldest and best friends. I hope she was worth it.

You'll just have to grin and bear it darlin'. I really think my best friend's hubby married her to become a U.S. citizen. He is also a pathological liar. I tried to say something to her about it a couple of times, and she reacted very badly to it. I decided just to put up with him rather than alienate her as a friend. Unless he is doing something really, really bad then you may just have to put up with him. Sorry I couldn't be more help.

Tell the love interest privately that they rub you the wrong way. Your presentation may make them stop in their tracks and re-think things, then tell your friend and let it ride from there.

I have had this happen to me more times than I can count....I just stay away from them and when my friend says why I tell her...sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt, but in the end she always sees what I am talking about. and everytime she says why didnt I listen to you...☺

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