Help!? My husband wants to let a ratty homeless man live in our house for a week??

Your husband may be considerate and whatnot to the homeless, but he's being inconsiderate and disrespectful to you. He never even consulted you about it, never even introduced you. Maybe if he would have came to you, asked you about it then you guys could have met him and saw that he was atleast mentally stable. In this day and age you can't just let some man into your home. It's hard out there and people are just trying to make it and they'll do anything in their power to do so. He could see that you two are living nice and try to take advantage of you or even hurt you. Not saying that is how every homeless person is, but you have to think of the possibilities.

No way in hell would I ever agree to that, I'd be afraid I'd wake up one night and the guy is standing over me with a meat cleaver. Tell your husband if he wants to help this man then he should give him a couple of bucks to get a room for a night or two. That's helping someone, by inviting him into your home, you're just welcoming a whole bunch of possibilities, potentially bad.

It's really nice of you husband to help this guy out, but putting your and his life in jeapordary isn't worth the "good person of the year" award. I mean, maybe if he really wants to help this guy out, he could just get him a motel room for a little while. Don't worry, it isn't wrong to not want him in your house. Homeless or not, I don't like when strangers stay in my home. I wouldn't allow it. What if he is some crazy killer, or a theif? Yea, I wouldn't let this man know where you live at all. If anything, he will remember where you live, and show up all the time at all hours of the day, and always ask for something. Instead of it being your husbands office, it'll turn out to be your house he "lurks" around. So I'd just keep him away from you and your house in general. Tell you husband you worry about your safety. I mean, really. Anyone can act all sweet and innocent for a time if they have a hidden agenda. Just be careful!!

I think it's a nice gesture for an old man who doesn't have much else. It's only for a week anyway, and you might even get to liking this man. I'm sure he's very nice, especially since he gave your husband money when he himself has very little. However, you're 50% of the decision. If you feel really uncomfortable with him in your house, then talk to your husband about it. Maybe offer to help him find a place elsewhere or rent him a hotel for a few nights. Remember, he's just a person, the same as you. Everyone needs a little help sometimes.

It's hard to not want to help out the homeless, but you are not at all expected to let a total stranger sleep in your house, homeless or not. If there's one in your area, contact the Salvation Army and tell them what's going on. Sometimes places like that have temporary housing solutions for the homeless. If you can't do that, contact the police (non emergency number) and ask them if there are any shelters in the area.

Unfortunately you must of paid him in cash - no proof exists. I think you must go in and put a restraining order on this guy because seems like he is going to persist in harassing you and your family. This is what happens when you are doing your good deed - people find a way to be nasty and mean when the free ride is over. Your family should be standing by your side not his. If he does file this lien you must fight it because you will not be able to sell or refinance your home as long as this lien is in place. He does not need to show proof of anything it is his word and that will be enough - you as the homeowners will have to show proof of burden. Contact a lawyer that will give you a free session and get started on clearing this up because it can get nasty. Hopefully you have some kind of pictures showing what you did for him and that he was not mistreated in any way - those will help your case alot.

oh god! you poor thing. I think your husband is very kind. The problem with kind peolpe is they get shafted. How does your partner not know this man is a vagrant as he is a thief, rapist, murderer released from jail and turned vagrant?

Tell your husband this... I am a forensic psychologist. I understand risks and stats to do with violence etc. This is a huge risk to you. You never know what a person is capable of. I studied a case where a man in Leeds let a man stay over for meals as he built up trust with a family. He tied up the man and his pregnant wife and raped her in front of him, forcing him to watch.That is where kindness gets you. He could have Hep C or anything.

Better that your husband gives him some money and tells him no.

Remember, I have nursed the sweetest old men and then read their files to find that they have killed and raped dogs etc. NEVER judge a book by its cover...

I think whovever gave me thumbs down must not understand this is not always a nice world. I have nothing against homeless and some are good. It is just I have spent this past week filing against a homeless man who raped a 11 year old boy for hours. I see it every day and do not believe in risks. it is too late when bad happens. You will have nothing put being pestered even when he eventually leaves. I have done these things when I was much younger. A soft touch is taken advantage of

I think your husband it's nuts and your crazy to go along with this. What is the point of having him stay in the basement for a week? What happens then? Two weeks, months, years. This guy is homeless why? Where is his family, friends. Tell your husband to put him up in a motel for the week and call it a day.

Neither you nor your hubby has any clue about this guy. He could rob your home, or harm you. Being nice is one thing being stupid is another.

Good luck

It was nice of the homeless man to help your husband out and it is even nicer for your husband to be kind to him in return. However this is reality. You do not know anything about this man and in today's world we have to be wary of who we let around us and our kids.

He should have discussed this with you first before agreeing to the situation. Now that he will know where you live whose to tell that he won't "hang around" or come back? Who is going to watch him in the house when your husband is at work? you? I hope that the entrance to the basement is outside. it would have been much easier to get him in a shelter, try to help him get some kind of lodging or even to pay for a room for him for a week. I don't think that your husband made a smart decision. I know that he was trying to be nice. But put your foot down. Do not do it. There are other alternatives!

Edited, I've changed my opinion.

I think its a very nice gesture. But, to be honest, most normal people do not become homeless. It is very possible he might steal something, or worse.

I believe a compromise is best for this problem. Talk about it with your husband:

-Offer him a shower, and pick up some new, cheap clothes

-Have your husband look over some job listings with him, set him up with some interviews.

This way, you can satisfy both your desire for him not to stay in your house and your husbands desire to return a favor.

Flat out tell your husband it will not happen. He never asked you and that is rude. Most homeless people have mental illnesses or are on drugs. You have got to put your foot down. That is creepy your husband would do that. You do not know that man. If your husband does not care what you say then tell him you are leaving and will stay some where else. You could also tell the man when he comes that your husband was mistaken and he cannot stay for a week. Moving out for a while will let your husband know how upset you are.