Mothers of Teenage daughters?

I really don't know how to answer to that lol.

I am 17 myself, and my mum thinks that I have an attitude too, although sometimes, I feel that I genuinly really don't. But then, I get frustrated because sometimes i feel like I just don't want to do anything, and it's just pure pure laziness. But I do it, with a moan, and then I get grouchy because my parents are grouchy with me.

I think that she has it lightly, my lay in is 8 in the morning and this is in the holidays!, I too have younger siblings, the youngest is 2.

Perhaps she's tired of doing all the chores and feels like why should she have to do it? I feel like that sometimes, when it's not even my mess!! But that's just ungrateful, and I do try and respect my parents for everything I have.

She does respect you for everything, I promise, no matter how much you feel she doesn't. Deep down she does! Because if she lost it all, she soon would regret her behaviour! I feel the same; sometimes i just feel so out of order, that I realise just how grateful I am to have all of this.

It's difficult, because we just want to have fun and live and not have to do all the chores.

I hope this kind of gives some insight of how us 17 year olds feel. To be honest, with me I'd say i'm just to damn lazy to WANT to do anything. I have quite a big family, and it feels that when I was younger I did so much around the house, all I want is a break!.

>> In reply- Have you asked her why she feels like that? Why she gets all shirty when you ask her to do her chores? But then, I suppose she'll say i'm not shirty, I haven't got an attitude, when deep down she just wants to leave the house. No offence; It's in situations here that aggrivate me totally!! You seem to give her the freedom that she wants, your fine with her seeing her boyfriend as long as she helps out at home, you jeapodise having a good time and going out with your husband just so she can have a life. Where sometimes, I don't live a bad life! But hell... My curfew is so strict 4.30 come in for dinner. only allowed out from 6-10. And that's just now, which isn't so bad really, but it feels so strict and other's which I wont start having a moan fest. etc etc. When really, exactly how is she going to react when nobody is there to pay for the electricity? for the water? for the roof over her head? Live with her boyfriend? Well is the relationship really going to last that long. I know I should be s ticking up for 17 year olds etc being one myself! But no, I agree with parents, there doesn't seem to be this "respect".

I think what may annoy her is you keep saying this "attitude" that word DRIVES ME CRAZY!!! lol, because I get, your attitude stinks at the moment, and I think to myself, am I giving off this attitude?!

I'm not sure if we can help your daughter overcome the laziness, she has to do this herself. The other comment said to not give her so much freedom; this may work, but then it may back fire! She may become rebellious and may not even listen to what you have to say.

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I've just read the other posts you've put in!! Jesus christ, excuse the language. I truelly hope my mum doesn't see me like that!! But seriously, I know this sounds bad, but how have you stopped yourself from giving her a good hit! I know, if my daughter was like that, i'd just want to smack her and tell her not to be so god damn selfish!! She must share!! How on earth... I'm sorry, I odn't like the sound of your daughter, forgive me, I do not know you or your family. I'm not perfect myself, but that girl seriously has issues that needed to be sorted. Is it like, the world revolves round her and no-one else? Perhaps she's so highly strung on being with her boyfriend, and him paying her attention that she strives it from at home and everywhere?

May I ask? The tiolettries you buy for you and your daughter, are they the same!? As in do you buy them from the same name, so one isn't cheaper than the other?! And alike with the shampoo etc. Because I have the problem, I get the nice tesco value things and my parents get the brand names! Wwhich IRRITATES me greatly, but then I respect that we don't have much of a budget and genuinly do not take their stuff.

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I'm now not a mom of a teenage daughter, I'm handiest 22, however you weren't mistaken!!! I used to be 14 while I received my first "critical" boyfriend, and I used to be allowed to visit the films with him. If she's validated to be accountable, you must present her for it. You are proper that if she wishes to peer him, she'll discover some way... If you desire her to be sincere and open with you you then additionally must deliver her just a little area and permit her have *a few* privateness. She's handiest four years clear of being an grownup, ya recognise! Gotta chill out the leash and permit her revel in matters at a few factor :) And I truthfully do not believe it makes a change whether or not you are within the foyer or now not... Might as good move do a little errands or whatever...

Sounds alot like my daughter who I finally let move out in January she just turned 18 in June. I actually stopped forcing her to do chores but in turn I didn't give her anything EXTRA When she questioned me on it I said Hey I asked you to do a few simple things if you can't do them than I am not going to do anything else for you, you think you are so grown up then go ahead and buy your clothes etc... (She has always been a real responsible girl has held a job since she was 12) it took her a while to come around but we are the best of friends now and hang out with each other almost every weekend. I hope the best for you two. Good Luck

Jeez!!! She's 17! You have to put into a relationship to get anything out of it, your her parent not her slave owner!

First of all, SHE didn't make her little brother, YOU did. It's not her duty to take care of him!

Second of all, Freedom doesn't earn love. I wouldn't do anything for my parents if they treated me like a little slave who is obnoxious for wanting to have a little bit of a life! Give her some love and maybe she'll return it will some help for you.

Thirdly, you work part time.. My mom works all day as well as my dad and that means they get a baby sitter and I do my thing!!

Fourth thing, I'm a good kid, because my mom has loved me and raised me to be with her love. I've never been a slave to her, but I get things done because I like that it makes her happy.

You should be ashamed in the way you've parented. And you wonder why she's "pissy." Even my mom and my teachers believe school is so much harder now than it was when they were in school.. If she gets good grades, she probably spends a lot of time doing work that most of her peers spend partying. Think about that.

Wow!! maybe if you step back a little and actually read what you wrote about her..If your saying all of this about her here, I'm sure your saying this to her face. lol...some of you clueless parents are really stupidly-funny. You wonder why she angry and upset, maybe because you have nothing nice to say about her. Your taking your own jealously of her "youth" on her. She is 17, not an adult moron. Maybe if you stop treating her like a maid for hire and like a teenage girl that is trying to find herself and is having some trouble( by the sounds of it).

My god woman, the part about how she walks around like the world has crapped on her is obviously a sign of depression, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that. Now that you medically neglected your daughter, you are now saying she is lazy, which is another sign of depression.

Your an idiot. I hope they take the other child YOU had away from you.

You need some parenting classes and an education. I cant believe people like you breed.

Sounds like she has too much freedom. Sit her down and explain to her that her attitude is poor and won't be tolerated. Tell her your expectations and her limits, if the attitude continues, she loses more freedom, such as make her curfew earlier until her attitude improves, limit the time with her boyfriend, make her have an earlier wake up time, then when/if attitude gets better, give more privileges.