Am I being unreasonable about wanting to see my kids???

You have tried being courteous with Wife B, and all she's given you is resistance and complaining. I think it's time to take a firmer stance. Tell her you will be seeing your children whenever you get the opportunity, whether she likes it or not, and you will no longer be asking her permission. Tell her she needs to figure out how to live with that, and that she might as well hold her complaints because they're not going to change this decision, which is final.

Wife A is angry that you've got someone new. She will eventually get over it when she finds someone. Hopefully for the sake of the children, she will come around. Wife B has to be reminded that you had these children before you met her. She should be applauding you for not ditching your kids. You described your present wife as pretty self centered and selfish. Why don't you try doing activites with your kids that your present wife can be involved in. Go places as a family. If your new wife isn't open to this, you might want to revisit your decision to be with her. She doesn't sound like a very caring person.

You have ever right to see your kids as much as possible and wife "B" should never make you feel guilty about it, but just remember you have a wife to so don't allow it to always be about the kids either....

You are not being unreasonable in wanting to see your kids when you can. She married the whole thing when she married you so she should try to be understanding. But might there be other issues she has with you? Could it be you are not giving her enough of your time? Think about it.

I am a "Wife B" with a stepson and i understand that his child comes before me, and that is the way it should be. Your current wife needs to understand that stop being so selfish.

you are not wrong at all, if she didn't like kids, she should not have married you, that's the truth...

I'd seriously consider dumping this woman... unless you want to see the kids with ex wife around, perhaps she thinks there is an affair going on??? why not take current wife with you???

Whom are you married to ? Wife a or wife b ? So wife b is the dumb one for being with your instead of just putting you on alimony and child support ? The wife and the children you have with the wife come first. The Ex children you have with the ex wife come after.

I can understand what your feeling, as I myself have been like wife "B", but for many good reasons.I live with my Bf of 8 years, he has an 18 year old girl and a 14 year old boy, my 2 kids are in their late twenties, so I already did my mommy thing years ago. Its not like I don't love his kids, I actually enjoy his children more now than ever now that they are growing up and are more mature.

I never tried to stop my bf from seeing his kids,if I did not like kids, I would not be teaching them of 21 years now and have had raised 2 of my own.

But depending on how your kids behave when they come over, can be a big issue for your wife, as it was for me, and let me reiterate once again, I didn't mind having them sleep over and visit with us, but at least 2 years ago dating back, when the kids would come over, they thought our place was some kind of flop house, they would come over, take things out , leave emptied dishes and glasses all over the house, I would had just gotten done making sure there was not one dish in the sink and by the time I would get home after working from 8 am to 11 pm ( 2 jobs), I would only come home to dishes loaded up in the sink again. Bath towels would be left on the bathroom floor, along with dirty clothes,all those kind of issues. I don't know what kind of issues your wife is having with the kids, but if she has to deal with picking up after your kids like I had to deal with it, then yeah I could understand her not wanting to have to deal with it.

I never minded his kids coming over, but I found it to be very disrespectful to have to come home after working 15 hours a day and have to face a dirty house by the time I got home, that is unfair, and I told him that too. But on that same token it was not my job to be constantly be picking up after his children, its his job, I told him if your going to have the kids over for the weekend or for a few days, then its your job to pick up after them and be a responsible parent, not mine, cuz I did not raise my own kids like that. If you take it out put it away, if you dirty it wash it, if you drop it pick it up, those were the kind of things kids should be taught.

He just never thought about placing boundaries in our home, that was another thing, taking out dvd's, software dvd's (leaving them out, that way they could get scratched up and cost me more money to replace the stuff). playing with remote controls for the tv's and electronics, my own personal stuff too , so yeah I started to feel bitter and resentful and was happy about the thought when they could not come over, at least that way the house would stay clean a little longer.But I blamed the way I used to feel on him, for not enforcing any house rules and teaching the kids respect about picking up after themselves.

So maybe your wife has those kind of issues and thats why she feels that way, sit her down and ask her, but if you are guilty of doing the same thing and letting things get out of hand when your kids come over,I might suggest that you teach them to pick up after themselves, although I do understand your one child is a special needs child, but try t think about what I have been through as a reminder, and I once again state for the shallow minded people out there, I had all good reason for feeling the way I did, but I did not love them any less,and anyone here after working 15 hours a day, as I am 50 years old now, thinks it was fair that I should have to come home after a long day and then have to pick up after his kids besides, then they you are the crazy ones.

If you have to ask the answer is yes