What should I get my husband for our our aniversary?

I think a card with your heartfelt expressions should be enough for him...There is nothing right about buying a gift under compulsion...at this point that is what you would be doing. Let it be this year. Not to get even in any way, marriage isn't based on that. But take out the pressure and stress of what to get and what not to get...just give what you feel is right from the heart...Another time when its not the center of a hot debate...explain calmly how you feel...that you don't want the things for them being the "things" that you want him to show he thinks of you...Ask if that is possible? And find out what is his "theory" on that. I wish you the best. And Happy Anniversary....and many many more!!!

Go all out. I did that once. My wife bought me a brush for Christmas one year. A friggin' brush with a mirror in the handle! On her birthday I bought her FRONT ROW tickets to her favorite country singer for her and her friend. That Christmas I bought them tickets for a three day, two night cruise in the western caribbean. I've gotten good gifts every since.

If he doesn't reciprocate with a nice thoughtful gift for you, then I would just get him a card and make him his favorite meal. I wouldn't buy a fishing trip, baseball tickets or any of the other stuff. It's called "teaching him a lesson." Be sure to be sweet and nice though....lessons work better that way.

You need to spend some leisure time together. Take him AND YOURSELF out for a pedicure; or both go to his favorite restaurant...is what I suggest.

bunch of flowers and really you will benefit from them

let that be it... it would be more than he got you