Mother In Law Drug Use Problems, Need Some Serious Help!

When my hubby was a little kid my mother in law was never there for him. She was always out in the streets doing drugs with her druggy friends. Eventually my husbands parents divorced and my father in law got custody of my husband and his younger siblings. My husband and I have been married 4 years and I would say about a year later she came into the picture. My mother in law tried to convince us that she was getting clean and that she had left that life behind her. My hubby and I being skeptical about it kept our distance from her. She would call us maybe twice a year if that, we would try to call her maybe every two months or so. Well during this past year she finally settled and moved into her own apartment and got herself her own cell phone which makes it easier for us to call. This past year we have kept more in contact with her and had the chance to finally go see her. My hubby and I are both in the Military and it’s hard for us to find the time off. Well our first visit we got a chance to see the living conditions she was living in. My hubby and I both saw how much she was struggling for every day things, so out of our own will we decided to help her, out not financially but with the things she needed the most like: pots & pans, dinner wear, cups, plates, clothes etc. We eventually sat down and had a talk about the drug life she had lived, then and there she said that she was sorry for everything she had done and that she would never do it again, that her children where her life. Well my hubby and I told her that if she stayed out of that life that we would be around, but if she went back to it than she might as well forget about us because we weren’t going to stick around to see the aftermath.

I recently got an e-mail from my husbands younger sister stating that she had found a crack pipe inside her house. I really didn’t know what to think of this situation because his sister has been known to lie. Well I showed the e-mail to my husband and he said lets call her and find out if it‘s true. When we called her and asked if this was true she said “YES IT’S TRUE”, and when we asked why she did it if she managed to stay clean for awhile, her reason was “I really needed to clean my house and I needed a boost”, I really couldn’t believe what I had just heard. I turned and looked at my husband in his eyes I saw his heart shatter in a million pieces. When I asked her if you needed a boost why didn’t you just take an energy drink??? her response was “Oh, do those really work?” I was so mad at that point, it hurt me so bad to see my husband hurting. She said that this was the only time she had done it to clean her house and that “She wasn’t going to do it again”. I asked her you promised us that you weren’t going to do it again and your broke that promise how are we suppose to trust you now??? Her response was “You can trust me, I wont do it again” My husband just told her that he had to think about thing and that if he thought she deserved another chance that he would call her back and if he didn’t then it meant that he had lost us. I talked to her after that and told her that she had really messed up and I would stand behind my hubby’s decision.

At this point I really don’t know what to advice my husband. Half of me wants to cut her off because of her reason to do the drugs was so stupid, I can’t trust her anymore, and I can’t bare to see my husband being hurt. My hubby and I just found out yesterday that this wasn’t the first time she has done it since she sat down and talked to us about how she wasn’t going to do it anymore, my hubby’s older brother told us that this wasn’t the first time she done drugs, that him himself has walked in on her and seen her do it, this is coming from my husband favorite brother and we trust his word. So all this time my mother in law has been lieing to us which pisses me off even more. The other half of me doesn’t want to cut her off because that is his mother, my kids grandmother. She’s and older women and she knows right from wrong, and who are we really to tell her what to do?

I just feel stuck. I don’t want my kids to be around a druggy grandma.

She has been in rehab before but she ended up leaving rehab a week into it, and refuses to go back in.

I don’t know what to do! Please Help Me! What would you do if you where in my situation??