Why am I having sick feelings about my husband masturbating?

You know, my husband and I just went through this last week. He had gotten particularly horny in the middle of the afternoon, I was at work, and let's just say he needed a hand. Well, he had left his "fantasy" magazines all over our bed. And I felt a little betrayed and angry when I got home.

I knew he did it before. And I know it's normal. And I knew he had the magazines. But just seeing it all over our bed was like a slap to my face. And to make matters worse, we'd been having issues in bed (me wanting him and his depression affecting his drive). So it was like a double slap because he could jerk himself off but couldn't bring himself to have sex with me. That was how I felt.

You just have to bring yourself to the conclusion each time you feel this way that IT'S NORMAL and that you can't and shouldn't want to change him. It's not that you don't do enough for him, it's that the mood struck him and he needed a hand when you weren't around. I don't think there's a way to feel more comfortable. You just have to bring yourself into a non-judgmental state and remember that he still loves you, he will still want you, and that sometimes, we actually do a bit too much for our men :).

Good luck hon.

This gets complicated, so bear with me. Porn serves a function for men. men turn to porn for three reasons 1) They are not getting sex at home 2) They are looking for something that the relationship cannot supply 3) They are looking for ideas hentai taps into a fantasy aspect, not only of a woman who is willing and wanting to have sex anywhere, but is usually very busty and massively horny. You are pregnant and many ment do not wish to have sex with a pregnant woman, but he still has these urges. Hentai is "safe" as there are no real people involved, not like true porn. That means a woman can have breasts the size of zepplins and the man can be hung like a log. It taps into primal wants and needs and, once taken care of, can be easily discarded

well doing masturbating is normal by a guy. I think you must needed enough attention to your husband, it's simply showing that he is sexually active guy so as far as I can imagine your situations you don't have any idea sexually.. sorry to say this but it's true some of the married guys wanted wives knowing high knowledge when it comes to the different positions..try to watch x-rated movies for you to find out and have some tricks.. try first with a BJ.. Good luck! Hoping it could help you..

Well you already said that you know it's healthy and normal. Why in the world would that make you sick ? Quit looking at it like it's a habit. It's not a habit it's healthy and normal. Maybe you should join him sometime and show him a better way to do it...

yes I know how you feel~~~~I use to think the same thing but now oh it is normal when you need to release some tension it's good for you! I know I do it all the time! And it is nice when you get some help from someone that loves to walk you thought it!

Well, have you ever tried it? YOu may find what you've been missing, and what he finds so desirable about it.

Also, realize that his habit has nothing to do with whether you satisfy him. He did this way before he was ever with you. Talk to him about it. No reason to have your feelings bottled up over something that may turn out to be totally harmless.

Because you are one of those prissy women who wants to control every single orgasm her husband has.

You don't have very much sex with him, you "give in" grudgingly, yet when he takes care of his own business, not cheating on you in any way, you still whine and piss and moan and "feel betrayed."

You are sexually repressed and instead of demanding it's your way or the highway, you need to learn that marriage is about ONE WORD:

COMPROMISE.

Start freely dishing out the pussy more often - - I mean 4 times a week, not once a month like you are doing now - - and after a few weeks of that ask him to turn the whack off cycle down from 10 to 8.

COMPROMISE.

Get it?

I think you are feeling this way because your husband is taking pleasure without including you in it. I don't understand when people say this is normal, especially in a marriage. If you need sexually gratification...that is what your spouse is for. It is self pleasure and when in a relationship it is selfish. If you have fantasies you should be acting them out with your spouse, not yourself. It may be hard to do but I'd talk to my husband if I was in your place. I'd want to know why he felt he had to do this and if there was a way I could add something to the sexual aspect of our marriage that he is lacking. Maybe he has a particular fantasy or desire he is reluctant to share with you.

Either you start masturbating also and see what's so fun or you join him and give him pleasure without asking for any in return.

Guys do it. It doesn't mean we don't like you, we just want to be selfish and be all about ourselves sometimes.

Honey, even if you had sex with your husband fives times a day every day he would STILL masturbate. Guys just do it. My husband does it and it doesn't bother me at all. It gives me some alone time to catch up on laundry and dishes LOL. I know our sex life is great, I don't think we've gone one day without having sex since we've been together. As long as you are happy, and he is happy, then there's no need to get upset about it.