money problems?????? help

Well did you know how much money you would have when you first got together and decided to get married If he had the same job and you had the same job, what made things change and made money a problem? I think a lot of people are struggling in today's economy, gas, heating oil, food , all has gone up. If you have your rent paid, food for the week on the table, bills paid, transportation to work, you really are not that much different than most americans who live week to week. Money does help, see if he can find another day job even part time, be patient and sit down with him and explain what it is you need the extra money for. If he works full time at night it will be hard for him to work during the day and get sleep too, perhaps a weekend job would be better for him.

Babies being a blessing from a higher power is inarguable. This country tanking fast, financially speaking, is as well inarguable. You are among many people facing only the early stages of an economic depression. It is only going to get worse, and with lots of kids it gets even worse. I am only offering up a warning. But to the core of your question: Start getting insanely frugal with your money, and cut costs when it can be done. People can save piles if they zoom in on their expenses. It can be done. Might want to hold off on baby number two if you were already thinking this. Lots of women impregnated while nursing thier infant don't know they are vulnerable to pregnancy post-birth. You'll make it though. Women are smarter and stronger than men. But when things settle down and your husband and you get more secure jobs then start pumping out those good looking babies again!

This is hard. If you haven't made out a budget, now would be an excellent time to do it! See where you can cut back, even if it means selling a car and buying a more affordable one, or cancelling cable, or something like that. Every little bit helps. Use coupons and don't go out to eat... that adds up like crazy.

If he doesn't have the initiative to look for a second job, start emailing him links to job postings. Check careerbuilder, monster, and hotjobs.

Good luck!

Have you tried doing something together.

I would take to the swap meets, yard sales and discount outlets and start reselling items you find on ebay for a profit. You get to spend quality time together on your 'hunts' and you can work from home. If you get really good at it, you can do this after the baby comes as well. Baby's tote everywhere and its a great thing to do for stay at home moms.

BTW not all mom's are carefree to be a stay at home mom. We just learn how to hide it better than others. We are misserable too.

i think that the two of you need to make out a budget and have a financial summit, immediately. this is where you both run your credit reports, speak to a financial counselor, and discuss where you want to be 1, 5, and 10 years from now. you might think that you and your husband are on the same page. that might not be the case, and you need to find out now. there is a reason why money is the number one cause of divorce in american marriages. it's because when it is not discussed, frustration begins and festers into other areas. this will save your marriage if you both take the initiative to do this now. it's worth it for not only you, but your unborn child.

You are probably worrying alot more because you are pregnant. i worried for monthes when i was pregnant because i knew that my husband and i both wanted me to be at home with the kids, but it didn't work after i had my daughter i had to go back to work an i hated it. but it made my husband wok harder and spend less and he got a few raises and it took about six monthes but now i stay home with my daughter all day . try maybe finding something that you can do at home. dont base your happines on other peoples lives either they may look like they are well off and may be stay at home moms but you never know what their lives are really like.

I understand you and you're right money isn't everything but its needed also.

Try to talk to him but don't bust up,just talk quite and explain him everything,tell him your situation that you're pregnant and you need special help and support right now,and explain that after baby will be born you will need much more money than you need now.

Wish you all the best:)