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why girls dont like me?please give me an advice?

i am 28 year old guy from india planing for an arranged marriage,i went to see 2 girls with my mother ,but 2 girls dont like me, i came to know that one girl feels that i am so reserved and she finds no likeness in me,another girl said i am not fasionable,.i dont have any love affair with any girls in my life, i liked to get fall in love and i tried some moves but all of that failed.i dont think i am not too ugly,but my communication skill is very low. i try to improve tht so many times ,but failed.My mother told me that ure look is so rude towards people,my eyes are like that.another thing is that my earning is very less and i am only a graduate.I also send so many request trough matrimonial sites but all girls declined my request.Kindly advice what should i do?any chance for me to get married?what should i do to make my mind relax .

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Hello sir I can understand your situation. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but don't rush it man, love will come. You can wait a while to get married, in fact I see no problem if you waited a few years. You gotta meet the RIGHT girl. I think the best thing for you would be to watch some romantic american movies such as (but not limited to): Hitch, The Notebook, The Fountain, Sleepless in Seattle, and Along came Polly. This will improve your english AND your communication.

    Stop going to matrimonail sites, they are crap and just want your money. You will not find real love that way, it may sound like I am being harsh but I'm only telling you what will help.

    Try talking, try really talking and making some friends. I know it may seem like you are shirking your responsibilitys at times if you conversate and get a little distracted from what you do, but its okay. Meet new people, even if they are guys (guys know girls!) more friends are always good. Seeing two girls with your mother is not enough, try to stay in contact with those girls, NOT through their parents, actually through them. See if they want to go do something with you (not both of them at the same time) like see a movie or have dinner. This will also help with communication.

    Form the face you have when you are around girls, now look in the mirror, if you were a girl would you like that look? Make sure you have the right smile and good look in your eyes.

    The amount of money shouldn't be that important, but make sure you are in a career where your income will grow steadily, you don't want money to be a problem in a marriage.

    This advice won't get you married immediately like you would like, but it will help you find real love that will last and really make you happy.

    Source(s): I am an Indian man!
  • Orla C
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    28 is considered very young to be getting married in the west.

    But your culture is different. First of all, I would say, calm down. It's not so terrible, and it's not so hard. You have only met 2 girls so far, this is nothing.

    Rather than looking for to fall in love first, why don't you just get to know the girl a little bit? Ask her about school, what she likes or liked there, what she likes doing when she's not in school, what she would like to do later, etc. Keep your questions open, by which I mean her answers would not be yes or no, but full, informative answers. It's a way of encouraging people to talk about themselves. Tell her as much as you need to about yourself, then bring it back to her, and ask her more about herself.

    As she talks, listen, maintain eye contact, and smile where appropriate. And also, when you first meet the girl, smile and say it's nice to meet you. It's a way of being polite, and you and she are being chaperoned by the parents, so I don't see how it would be a problem if you are friendly in this manner - even if the girl is not attractive, be friendly. She might turn out to be very nice once you get to know her, or she might have a friend who would be a potential partner for you. And girls talk among themselves in every culture ....

    And don't concern yourself too much about the way you look - as long as you keep yourself well-groomed, wear clothes that suit you, wash your body regularly, keep your hair and your teeth good, look after you diet and your skin, you will be fine. This in combination with a friendly and outgoing manner, and the questioning and listening I have described above, will make you attractive in girls' eyes. It will also make you interesting in potential employers' eyes, as they will see you as someone who makes the most of their assets.

    Nowadays girls can afford to be selective about their husbands, which means that the men have to work a bit harder to win a wife. It used to be that there were more women for men, so the women had to work harder. It takes more than looks and charm, it takes integrity, sincerity, honesty, friendliness. If you have all these qualities, you will attract someone who has similar qualities, which will result in a happy marriage.

    Good luck, pet.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    first stop being disappointed crying person... stand on your feet ... dont show eagerness to get sympathy ... and before finding love learn to enjoy ... take some good designers help go for complete make over in a saloon ... experience everything with safety and using brains drink hard dance in a party ... you should know how everthings work in the society even if its considered bad ... have a positive sight with fun ... be thrilling freaking ... try out adventurous sports ... and enjoy and try all the things which girls usually like guys to do and even popular freaking guys do to enjoy ... read play boy and such men magazine which shows the latest activity men like to do these days and men trendz ... and dont ask for beyond your limits ... be happy and confident in what you are in ... it is necessary to be simple still it is necessary to enjoy and have a change sometime... for being interesting first you need to make yourself interesting with fun... you cant ask for ashwariya rai if you are just a graduate of 28 years and want to get married immideately ... dude its real life not a movie ... people cant take such a big risk decission in such a small period of time ... and remember first impression is the last impression ... if you think you are not good with your communication than just go to a place where you can learn communication skills ... i am sure this will help you ... and remember girls hate dull guys ...

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    U need to be yourself and fall in love with a woman.. not have it arranged for u.. thats not the life.. being forced to be married to someone u hardly know.. take everyones advice on board and make minor changes that u feel u require to make urslef feel better.. a new outfit..a haircut? and Get out and meet people.. Be outgoing thats what woman like..

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    you could submit a remark on her web site. seek for those that say "in simple terms dropping in to assert hi" or sth like that. you additionally can deliver her a msg, asking her what's up and how she's doing. i think of it would be cool to comprehend that somebody from my previous concept approximately sending me a message, no count how long or short. this is occurred in the previous and we are all truly sturdy acquaintances immediately. i'm specific she'll be happy to take heed to from you.

  • 1 decade ago

    Ummmm, I don't know you, but from what I have read I would say RELAX! You sound uptight. Also, try taking a interest in somebody else besides yourself. That helps.

  • 1 decade ago

    i think you must pass a friendly smile....and give a pleasing look.you must use the words-hello....hai...

    and dont forget to try speaking infront of mirrors.

    you can also go for chatting with unknown persons...

    i think this will help you a lot..........

  • 1 decade ago

    Pyaar kiya nahi jata, ho jata hai

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    saajan is like means lover and than try be like urs name

    Source(s): love is life
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I know its cliche, but the best thing you can do is just be yourself.

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