Why do women assume a man has been hurt simply because he pionts out the dangers of relationships with women??

We all have our own biases just like you do. You could easily change this from women to men. It works both ways. Maybe you are right that we should have a healthy fear of each other and maybe that is a key factor behind successful marriages that no one really seems to discuss. I think I have a fear that is healthy regarding my husband. I think he has one of me as well. He's been married before and I haven't. I waited until I was 32 to get married. It wasn't something I wanted to rush into. Some men are too fearful of women. I have known men like this that grew up in a volatile home with an abusive mother. One of them seemed to date women that had real problems. I think he was attracted to the drama. He's a very creative and insightful person. He didn't get the drama with me. But really it comes down to individual choices. It's up to you how you choose to live your life. If you are happy then there isn't a problem. If other people notice a problem and care about you then it might be wise to at least consider the possibility. We are not omnicient.

WOW DICK>>> that is yourt name right? It's not your personality is it? Well from what you wrote DICK your name seems to fit your personality. ANYWAY DICK>>>> Your question is probally not being received too well by some people is because it sounds all so one sided?? There are JERKS out in this world who come in ALL different packages. SOME woman and SOME men. You sound like you want to make ALL the woman out there responsible for all the bad relationships out there. Well I'm here to tell you DICK, THATS NOT TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Did you have an abusive mother growing up DICK??? Maybe you should sit down with a shrink and talk it over with them. Theres some reason why you want to blame all the woman out there for when a relationship doesn't go good DICK?? I would go find out what the answer is instead of wasting your time on this site trying to figure it out DICK. You are single right DICK.? I would bet my house on it that you are. Are you missing one half of your brain DICK?. You are a sad individual for thinking the way you do. I will gurantee one thing. YOU will never have a fun loving decent relationship in your life DICK. And thats sad. You don't know what your missing out on DICK.

I think the assumption works both ways.

It's important for both men and women to stay somewhat guarded in relationship whether you have been hurt or haven't.

If you walk into a relationship completely blindsided you are bound to get hurt and or rush into something you aren't sure about.

It's always important to look out for yourself first.

I agree with you on this one... just because you may have concern for yourself doesn't mean you have a negative attitude or have been hurt in a past relationship!

I think some people may assume that about you because you are singling out women as being the danger in the relationship opposed to there just being dangers in a relationship. So your bias comment would lead one to believe you are being bias for a reason because the truth is men and women cause problems in relationships not just women.

Because most "men" who pen eloquent oratories thinly veiling their hatred for women such as yours are angry little boys who have just been dumped by some flighty little girl for the first time in their lives and wouldn't know what a relationship with a real woman was if it landed on his nose.

Why do you assume that all women assume this? And contrary to what you think, it is not based on fact. It is only based on your opinion based on your own observation. It is your reality and your reality may not be the same as the next person's experience. I call it projection.

"Having a healthy fear of women in (sic) safe and logical."

Hmmm..... so what was your relationship with your mother like? LOL

it seems your "healthy" fear of woman has kept you from having a long term relationship.

Oh hell I just chalk it up that he thinks he a f--king know-it-all.