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Do you owe an ex an explanation?
Ok here goes. I abruptly cut off contact with my ex. Blocked him from facebook, msn, email and wouldn't take his phone calls. Why? He was super-emotional, jealous, insecure, catty, young, had MAJOR unresolved issues in his past and *ding ding* screwed 26 men before me.
I only knew all of this into our 2 month 'relationship' because the first day we met, we boned, and I didn't even know anything about him til his personality and traits started to show. I didn't even want a relationship - just got guilted into it by his manipulative emo sh!t.
I suggested that we should go "on break", and that didnt work coz he was still getting on 'wifey', then I told him it's over, and that didn't work either... so I just cut him off without telling him anything. He calls my phone all the time and I feel guilty because I've been cut off before by other people and it hurt... but damnit I don't want to have to explain/talk to/start back letting him into my life at all now. I just see it turning into more argument, more emotional bullsh!t, more guilt tripping..yadda yadda. Is this wrong?
uh, bdsquad? he's been with waaay more guys than i have and a lot of them weren't in relationships so i dont see how my 'boning' him could possibly mess with his head any more. it sounds to me like it's a taste of his own medicine.
7 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
It's not wrong at all. Some people simply can't take a hint, even when you flat out tell them. I'm 100% certain that if you do try talking to him again to give him some closure, by the way his personality sounds, it'll only make things worse.
Source(s): Bisexual, Buddhist - DonLv 71 decade ago
If you truly didn't care, you WOULD invest the time to 'once and for all' sit him down and explain to him that you are NOT interested in him. It's the kind thing to do and it's the 'right' thing to do. Gee, fella, don't you have at least an ounce of human compassion... When you're finished, tell him that you would rather have him go his way and you, yours...and that having 'NO' contact would be a better way to go...as there is NO hope for any future (period!) After that, he's on his own and you are on your own. What he does to waste his time should be none of your business... You might also tell him, before he finally leaves, this is the 'last time' you're telling him and that if he continues to do all of the stuff he's been doing before...that you have documented everything (including your 'taped' meeting with him asking him to leave you alone) he will force you to get an attorney, have a restraining order placed against him...and you will file a harassment suit against him... THAT, should do the trick... There should be 'no mistake in his mind' whether or not you may still 'care' for him...
- MacparkLv 61 decade ago
It's not wrong. Normally I say that people should try to at least have some closure and say goodbye to the person and good luck, etc... But it sounds as if you've done all that and he's not getting the message. If you give an inch, he'll take a mile. Be firm.
If this continues, tell him that you will be forced to get a restraining order against him. There's nothing else you can do.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
No you have tole him you wanted to go on a break and that it was finished! And so what if you boned the first time you met as long as the present was wrapped!! You live your own life!
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- 1 decade ago
You obviously don't want to be tied down, so in a sense, it's not wrong. Although to me, you sound like you're not worth being with in the first place.
Saying that you "boned" someone makes you sound like a complete prick. Maybe you need to figure out that when you have sex with someone, you're actually messing with their head, not just having random fun.
- Moo!!!Lv 51 decade ago
An explanation? The only thing he needs to know is that you don't want him to be a part of your life anymore. It's your right to not want to be involved with a person who isn't that great. Good for you for dropping the loser.
- 1 decade ago
You already told him its over. If he does not want to accept that, it's not your problem. You don't owe him any explanations at this point. If you talk to him at this point he may it the wrong way and may want to start something again. He'll feel bad irregardless he'll get over it soon enough he'll meet someone else.
