boyfriend issue- girls and guys can both help?

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Um..I've already asked my friends this question but I don't know whether they're saying those things because they're very protective friends or whether because it's true. Um, I should start off by saying that I've been through a very bad verbally abusive relationship before and I've gone through a lot of physical abuse as well my past. I've been traumatized...had PTS everything. :(

My boyfriend's very nice. We're both 19 years old at a prominent college though he's going to be a Junior next year while I'm going to be a Sophomore. Anyway, he use to give me rides in the morning for our summer session I classes but now my classes are later so he doesn't. Today, one of my classes ended at 7:40 pm and my phone was running out of batteries. I called him to see if he could give me a ride and he said he was already at home. Anyway, my phone died shortly afterwards..so I waited for the bus. :( It was rly cold (coz we're right next to the ocean) and I was only wearing short shorts and a tank top. I waited for exactly 1 hr and 10 min...no bus so I started walking home. I sprained my ankle a few times 2 years ago so the cold rly hurts it. Mm..it took me half an hr to walk home and it was rly dark. I had to cross a few big streets. Umm..I get scared easily because...I've been traumatized before? I get frightened about being abandoned...to the point where it'll make me cry. :( He and I both live about 7 min away from our school if you drive. My friends all say that it's outrageous he didn't come and pick me up but...he didn't know the buses weren't going to run. He thought it ran every half an hr. Um...I feel really sad. I cried when I got home.

Was he wrong or are my past experiences making me act really dramatic? :( Please just be honest.

Also, if he was wrong..how do I explain this to him nicely? I don't want secrets and hidden feelings in a relationship.

By the way...I really hate asking my boyfriend for anything at all. It makes me feel really bad about myself so like..it actually took guts to call him and ask for a ride back. :( I know it sounds really stupid and silly but it really takes courage for me to do stuff like that. I think that's part of why it hurt so bad....that I was left there.......

I'm not an ugly girl or anything and an evil part of me said "omg. you can get rides from like..any guy and he won't pick u up. Just today you got hit on by some random stranger that wanted to take you to lunch.." *sighs* am I being evil? I really care about this guy. :(

Bleh..I'll go cry for a while. lol....

Brutally Honest · Accepted Answer

Yes your being overly dramatic in my opinion. He's not your slave, he's your boyfriend. If he knew what you would have to go through obviously he would have come to pick you up. I would probably tell him about it but don't get super angry at him because he could not have possibly predicted what could have happened. 

Just be level headed when you talk to him about it and I will be sure he'll think of a way to make up for it.

bubbaxriley · Answer

Does he know about your past, and your fear of abandonment? If he doesn't explain it all to him and explain to him how you felt that night, and how hard it was for you to ask. Tell him about the emotional damage your poor heart has gone through.

On a different note, it was pretty assholish of him not to come and get you. You're a young adult, alone, in the dark. There are sick people in this world, and you're lucky you weren't hurt!

I wouldn't break up with him over this, but tell him how it made you feel. If he acts like "why should I care how you feel?" then DEFF dump him lol. Good luck, and I'm terribly sorry about your past. Keep your head up high and remember, never frown because there will always be someone missing your smile (cheesy, yes I got it from my friends AIM profile..hehe)

Tye · Answer

did he even ask how you were gonna get home or did he assume you were gonna take the bus? honestly i know how you feel about the whole asking your boyfriend for a ride and stuff.. i use to be like that but then i got out of it the longer we stayed together. i think that he should've came and picked u up even though he was already home. it was dark and late and cold outside and you were alone. i think you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel so he'll understand.

bbcool19 · Answer

Give him a break.  I'm sure he'd have come to pick you up if he'd have known.

Bailey S · Answer

i think its just fine.
i mean he didnt know that was gunna happen to you

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