Friend has just had a still birth?

Just be there for her when she needs you don't push her to talk she will need a friend like you more than anything at the moment.

Be there when she wants to talk and when she wants to be alone respect her wishes.

Your friend will have emotions running high and will go from one extreme to another one day will be fine another she will be in tears.

My friend had a still birth 4 months ago at 8 months and that was how i comforted her

All you can do is pray don't ask him why just pray and explain how you feel about the situation and the pain you are experiencing right now. There's no one better to be by your friend right now than you. you have been through a similar situation and you can feel where she coming from. All I can say is if you feel that you are not ready to deal with her situation make sure you are truly prayed up before coming in contact because you don't want to feel like you wasn't there enough or you could have done better. Try not to cry it will be hard but just try you don't want her to see you hurting as much. Believe it or not you may be the only one she wants right now so make sure you are. And remember she's probably a little more down because she probably seen the baby and all. I'm praying for you all everything happens for a reason STAY UP!

I am so sorry for your loss as well as your friend's. The first thing that I wouldn't do is say, I know how you feel. While you have has a miscarriage, which is tragic, imagine having a still born child. Going through the pregnancy to have labor end so terribly. If she has other children, take them to the park, make meals, take her her kids to school, help keep up her house. All those things that she would normally do, but really can't at the moment. Be there when she wants to talk. God bless you both.

I am so sorry for both of your losses. Your friend is about to have a very hard and emotional road to go down (as she may still be in shock). I suffered a stillbirth last year and it was the hardest thing I have ever been through. I found that my greatest comfort was in my family and friends who were just plain there for me. Cried with me, called me, visited me... Some people will try to avoid her because it is such an uncomfortable situation. Which will make the mother feel so alone. The worst feeling after a stillbirth is the loneliness in your loss. Talk to her about her about her baby who passed, ask if you can help with any funeral or memorial arrangements.

Maybe you can get her a gift? Here is a website where family bought me little gifts. http://www.myforeverchild.com/store/WsPCollections...

Maybe you can get something for yourself in honor of your loss.

Let her know that you are there for her whenever she needs to talk. It is going to be difficult for awhile. Some things that might help her are: go over and clean for her, cook her meals, most of all let her talk about what happened whenever she feels the need to talk. Be prepared, she may not want to be around people for a little while, but let her know when she is ready you are there for her. You also might want to tell her about this site: http://www.babycenter.com/ They have a miscarriage/infant loss section with a thread for women who have experienced a stillbirth. For me this site was a lifesaver because the women all knew exactly what I was going through and could offer support. Two years after my stillbirth, I am still friends with many of the women that I met in this group.

My daughter was premature and died two days after birth (this was on June 27, 08). There isn't much you can do for your friend at a time like this. Just be there for her, and be patient.

At first, she might seem okay. This is probably from the initial shock. It is so important to give her time to grieve. Be there for her MONTHS from now, not just this week. It takes some time for reality to set in.

Helping her around the house, with chores and errands, will be a huge help too.

You sound like a good friend, who is concerned. I wish both of you the best through this hard time.

Be there when she needs you.

My cousin had a still birth a few months ago, sometimes she just wanted to be by herself, other times she wanted everyone around her.

Let her know you are only a telephone call away and you will come round and see her whenever she feels down. Let her know that she has support from her family and friends.

Do stuff for her without being asked. If she says, I'll call you when I'm ready, I'd still make it a point to let her know you're there--send a few notes of encouragement, stop over with a lasagna, etc. You do know what she's going through--you both lost a child. No one can relate better than you.

Just be there with her. Do stuff for her without being asked - that is a sign of a great friend. Treat the situation like any other death in the family, nothing less. Hold her hand and tell her you love her.

gosh im sorry. just be there for her,after suffering a miscarriage which im sure was terrible for you,and your friend carrying a baby then for it too pass away is not a nice experience!! i wish you both the best of luck and sending condolences..take care!x