How do you approach a woman without it appearing like you're "hitting" on her?

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I am a very sociable person. I have no problems with talking with women, but, sometimes women think I'm "hitting" on them. I'm interested in a relationship and I'm not a "player." I've had bad experiences (at times) where I strike up a conversion with a woman and I ask her if she'd like to get together sometime, next thing I know she's telling everyone that I was "hitting" on her. A very nice woman came into my office the other day, she was very personable and we seemed to be getting along with each other. I wanted to ask her out for a cup of coffee, but, I've had bad experiences in the past. The last thing I would want is for a client to start complaining about me because I want to make a new friend. She left and the chance of ever seeing her again is slim to none. So my question is: How do I approach a woman without it appearing like I'm "hitting" on her?

gongli2329 · Accepted Answer

That's a difficult question. Women differ, they don't think alike. So there is really no formula on how to approach a woman. As a woman, I am annoyed when a man comes on very strong and esp if he's not my type! Those women that you had (bad) experiences with maybe you're not their type. So I would just advice you to be honest, if you really like the girl, say that you don't want to appear like you're hitting on her, but that you really like to go out sometime, for coffee or drinks etc and then get her number. Then call if you say you will. Goodluck!

Samantha J · Answer

try to be friendly not flirty and dont ask her to coffee the first time you meet her get to know her casually and eventually ask her to do something outside of work/school/wtvr and tell her casually that you love making new friends otherwise ya it comes across that youre hitting on her..

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