Why does porno my friend gave me make me feel so guilty?

You feel guilty, because guilt has been instilled in you. It is a learned behavior. You are not actively participating in anything bad. You weren't even the person who purchased the porno, so the argument can't even be made that you're finacially supporting the industry.

You feel that this is demeaning to women. There are those who share your concerns. There are rational arguments to be made, that also support that view. You're probably even aware of these arguments, which further makes you feel guilty.

Masturbation is healthy. There is nothing inhearently wrong with masturbating, as long as it is done in private and does not harm others. No laws are being broken. You may also feel sexually frustrated and this may be a healthy release for that frustration. My only real concern is that you will rely too much on porno and masturbation and will ignore the real world. You may pass-up a chance with a real life woman for this, and that is wrong. Don't deprive yourself of a social life, for this. It's just not worth it.

The stuff in porno is exagered. It's not real. Even the stuff that promises to be real, is about as real as reality tv. It's an exageration. No one chooses to have sex in those positions, because they just aren't comfortable. They are all being done for the benefit of the viewer. Camera angles, lighting and editing effect what you see in those films. When you're actually with someone, you aren't worrying about those things, and so you behave differently. Those things are also loosely scripted. I say loosely, because lets face it, they aren't exactly covered by the writer's guild.

You may be developing an addiction. Sex releases chemicals into the brain. These chemicals can be very powerful. Some of these chemicals are even responsible for actual drug addictions, such as dopamine. Whether you're sexually arroused, or trying to get a fix from a drug, you're basically chasing after dopamine. It's a feel good chemical that makes you feel high. You may also be chasing after PEA, which gives you a rosey outlook on life. When you hear, you're addicted to love, it's often PEA that people are experiencing. The same is true of people who are addicted to chocolate, although chocolate also contains caffeine. Just like any other addiction, it will be diffecult to overcome.

I don't believe you should stop masturbating all together, but you should certainly consider moderation, and draw your attention towards the real world. You say you've stopped trying, just because of negative past experiences. Well there's your problem. Start trying again. So you got rejected, and you may continue to get rejected, and that hurts. The women in those porn don't reject you. They don't let you down and you always get what you want, but they aren't real. They can't give you what you really need out of life. They can't hold your hand. They can't be your friend and they can't love you. You need to start trying again.

If you want to stop feeling guilty, then start learning moderation. Begin approaching women. You don't have to ask-out every woman you approach, but at least start talking to them. Get to know them. Introduce yourself. Make friends. Some of those women may turn into girlfriends, but they may also turn into friends who are girls. That's good too. You'll feel better about yourself if you begin to develop both platonic and romantic relationships with women. Maybe you feel as though you're contributing to negative behavior. The way to overcome this, is to start demonstrating positive behavior. You may say you love women, but actions speak louder than words. Start demonstrating positive behavior, and you wont feel as guilty.

Best of luck in life and love. :-)

You obviously have some weird sexual hangups.

Feeling guilty about masturbation shows some kind of repression that you have learned during your life. Maybe religion, maybe social, maybe something else. But at the end of the day, it is perfectly natural and normal to masturbate.

In fact there was even a study that came out a couple of years ago that said that if men were not sexually active, and they don't masturbate, it increased the risk of some kinds of cancer, and other health issues. So from a medical standpoint masturbation is good.

As far as porn goes, as long as it is legal and between two or more consenting adults, I don't see what the problem is. These people chose to have sex on camera for money, that was their choice. Their choice is not reversed if you stop watching it, or throw the DVD away.

So stop worrying about masturbation. Start thinking about how to get into a healthy normal relationship with a partner. And try and chill out. You are definitely not the first man to masturbate to porn.

well if you feel guilty stop doing it

i thank porn is wrong you shouldn't have to look at some one else having sex to get off

try other things that would help find you a girl

try and find events for singles

i know that sounds like your a loser but all the girls that have turned you down are losers you just have to keep looking there is some one out there try a dating service on line that way you know that person likes the same things you do

and i know for a fact that not every girl likes guys who watch porn

the people on there don't really respect there selves and i thank any one that is doing what you do is on there way to having a problem i would stop now or you could turn in to something worse than a guy that can't get the girl

it could lead to you being a perv or needing something more than your hand and you don't want to turn in to a rapist not saying you will but thank about it what happens when it stops making you feel sick and maybe you should see a therapist

Why feel guilty, you have to remember that its their choice to do that, forget all this crap about coming from difficult backgrounds, half the porno stars now came from good schools, one in particular was an alter server and now set to be the next biggest star.

So enjoy it, you have to seperate the view of women in these vids from women outside, I still respect women who deserve it. But would it be better for you if you were to go out and sleep with a girl who is practically flaunting herself at you because shes drunk and out of control and has no feelings towards you. Its practically the same thing but in real life, at least this way you wont catch anything!

because you wish you could do that to a woman. The problem is that you feel girls should not enjoy raw sex like in porn but in real life there are a lot of woman out there who really enjoy this type of hard core sex. The reason you feel sick is cause you have a lot of mix feelings about this. you wish to have with a girl just like in porn but your afraid of offending her. You wanna treat her right and at the same time you just wanna have porn sex with her. The thing that turns you on is wishing that that was you in the video doing that to the girl there.

Many people love watching porn even though they may not admit it! It think you are just embarassed because it seems so unnatural to you. Be aware that many people watch porn and it is ultimately a turn on. You should not feel guilty its perfectly normal! Couples often watch it together as well! Porn is about fantasys and it isn't deamening to women. I am a woman and I watch porn. You are normal

Why do you think that the women in the video should feel unhappy? They are getting laid. Most people feel happy when they are getting laid.

Your problem is that you think that sex is dirty and disrespectful to women. No wonder you have no sex life.

It's not the porn that is making you feel guilty. It is your screwed up psyche.

Sweetie, these girls get paid to do what they do. The guys get paid as well. This is their job. That is all....Don't take it personal. If parts of the video turn you on, then just go with it. Of course you would probably not treat a young lady like that, UNLESS she is into that too. It is called role playing. Many times we have sex hang ups because of things that happen to us, as kids. Sometimes we are a little "screwey" because of our religious upbringing...it's hard to say...Until the right girl comes along, just enjoy your videos.

LOL, you should see the porn i watch. it makes a porn addict vomit. you have morals my friend. something i lack. it's a good thing, embrace it and stop watching it. imagine you are married and your on your honey moon and your doing it for the first time with ms. right. this scenario is moral and you may not feel guilty afterward. use your imagination not porn because it's not who you are man

Because your nine year old brother is in the room watching you.