Unfriendly Christian Homeschooling Moms?

They are probably just unfriendly people who got together because they had that in common, and they're not worth your time nor do they deserve to have you and your children in their group if they're going to treat you like that.

I don't think it's a homeschool thing, nor is it a christian thing. I am not a christian, but my mom is and so are a few good friends of mine, and they are very friendly people. But some people just aren't friendly, no matter what their religion.

There are two homeschool groups in my area, or at least two very active ones. One is a very large group with more than four hundred members of all different backgrounds, religions, cultures, and education philosophies. We've got christians, catholics, athiests, jewish people, all different skin colors, cultural backgrounds, people with disabilities, people who use online school, traditional homeschooling, charlotte mason, corespondance school, unschoolers, you name it. And everyone is welcome to our events and meetings as long as they're homeschoolers or interested in trying homeschooling.

The second group is very small, only about thirty twenty members. It's made up of moms who used to be members of the first group but for some reason decided they didn't like the way it was run. I don't understand why or what actually happened because we didn't join the first group until long after. They're all christians, all white, and all homeschooling the same way, using the same curriculum, etc, and they do seem rather cold. When we were first looking for a group, we tried this one first because we thought it was a nice, close knit group that would be perfect for us. We didn't know enough about it. They were very cold towards us when my mom started talking to the other mom's. They were fine giving us homeschool information, but that stopped too when mom said she didn't want to use a christian based curriculum with me or make me go to chuch and when she told them that we do a sort of homeschool/unschool mix. When we asked about group meetings and how we can join, we were ust told very coldly that they aren't allowing any new members to join at that time... So we went looking elsewhere and found the bigger group, and it is absolutely WONDERFUL.

So just don't take it too personally and don't get worked up over it. See if there are other groups in your area that you could try. I'm sure you'll find that the majority of homeschoolers, even christian homeschoolers, are NOT like this. Best of luck

Try again with another group. Or start your own.

Some groups are too well-established, people get to know each other too well, they are so comfortable with each other, that they forget to reach out to new people. Or maybe they are shy and feel that the newcomers need to start the ball rolling. Or maybe they recently had a newer member cause trouble and now they are cautious about new members. Whatever the reason, you can choose to keep coming back and hope that they'll warm up to you and become friendlier, or you can just move on and try another group.

Practically speaking, every group has its own "personality" and some are a better fit than others. What may seem cold to one person, might seem fine to someone else. Don't take it personally. I would suggest that unless something truly awful happens, it is a good idea to give any group a second chance because everyone (and every group) has an occasional off day; but if it still seems cold to you, try another group or try advertising to start your own.

I think it's more the people you've come in contact with than Christian homeschool groups in general. Each group has its own flavor; some are friendly, some are not. I've been involved with one that I pretty much ran from, one that I didn't feel a part of, and one that's wonderful. Needless to say, I stayed with the wonderful group.

I would say to keep looking or to start your own. Seriously. If a group like you're looking for doesn't exist, put the word out and start one. It's likely that other people in your area feel the same way, they just haven't thought of it yet.

HSmom makes a good point about starting your own group if the cold, distant Christian ones are the only local option. You're certain not to be the only one to give them a try and walk away deeply disappointed.

It's just my personal opinion, but I think groups that have a mix of race, religion and educational philosophy are generally more friendly and certainly a lot less judgemental. There's less danger of a 'we are superior' pack mentality, Us and Them, when group members are very diverse.

HSmom makes a decent point about starting your own group if the cold, distant Christian ones are the sole self-rule. You are bound to not be the sole one to present them a try to walk off deeply foiled. It's simply my personal opinion, but I think groups that have a mix of race, faith and instructional philosophy are typically a {lot of} friendly and actually a lot less judgmental. There is less danger of a 'we are superior' pack mentality, U.S. and Them, once cluster members are terribly various.

Sorry you were treated that way. I wish you could be a part of the group I am in. We are friendly to everyone. Our group is not restricted to Christians, but everyone in the group happens to be Christian.

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