Do you think these are unfair party plans?

it's her birthday so she can do what she wants.

RSVP and explain to her that you would love to help celebrate her birthday but you just dont have the extra cash for those things.

also, try to pick one thing at least, like a brunch or something that you can afford... you dont have to do everything, you can go out for drinks and just order one or 2 drinks and hang out the rest of the time... you dont have to spend a ton of money. and even fine restaurants have salads or other cheaper things that you can order.

i imagine your being somewhat spoiled. i wanted one as well yet i realized i do not decide on a celebration to sense like a princess. it really is a waste of money and also you ought to take excitement on your aunts efforts of spending funds on you in any respect. it really is a celebration not a wedding ceremony. And heavily; that's only an journey human beings will come to or maybe as they bypass to someones celebration it really is more desirable effective or they see a more desirable effective celebration they received't even keep in mind you had one. in the journey that your gonna throw a celebration, plan an 18th bash and plan it in view that now. perchance you'll sense more desirable effective in spite of the indisputable fact that that's not mandatory. Ask for funds and purchase some stuff for your self or spend it on the spa and eat out or re beautify your room. etc do not cry over a celebration even as there are those who only favor to have a spa day or favor to ever bypass out and don't have the money to finish that. be pleased about what u have and what ur getting. Lesson: do not B SPOILED

I suppose that will be her own fault then, and yes she should have taken that into consideration and not just assumed because it's a big thing for her, that everyone else can or would want to spend a huge chunk of cash just to be able to celebrate her birthday with her.

I think shes being unreasonable. She should have one night to go out with everyone, but expected everyone to go out three days in a row is a bit much. A lot of people can't afford to do all of those things. I think people should pick and choose what they want to participate in for her birthday.

I'm with you. I think it's very inconsiderate, and also very time-consuming. Why doesn't she have any time to just

BE with her friends -- a nice cocktail/hors d'ouevre (SP?) night

at someone's home where all can bring some food/drink

and share the cost????

Why don't you suggest to have this at your place, and see

what she says?

Also, that would be safer...

I hope she's not looking for gifts on top of all this!

Tell her that you want to see her but you can't afford that stuff. If she wants to exclude people have your own party!

How about don't party at all. Makes it so much easier.

Too much to read, I can arrange a party, just me, you, some other girls and my friend below.

Too much bye

that is unfair, talk to her about it.