Im Pregnant! and I need help!?

You are 18 years old. Very young, but you are now an adult, and you need to learn to take up some responsibility for your actions. Think about it. Getting an abortion is not going to make everything okay. In my opinion, you should keep it.

As for the cigarettes, imagine what kind of damage they do to fully grown people. Then imagine what they would do to a tiny embryo - more like a bunch of cells.

If you do decide on getting an abortion, please think it through clearly. Talk with your boyfriend, and make sure he gets some say in it. You could always have the baby and then go to college later on. College isn't going anywhere.

I hope I helped a little. I know this isn't my choice to make, it's yours.

Good luck, sweetie.

Hi,

I had my son at 18, my partner and I had been together about 2 yrs. To tell your family you just have to bite the bullet and tell them, the longer you leave it the harder it'll be.

If you decide not to keep the baby then I don't see the point in telling anyone else as this might bring on other peoples feelings and (unintentional) guilt trips on you.

It sounds to me as though you'd rather keep it going by the first bit of your question, why be bothered about having taken that pill or smoking?

I don't think smoking will have done that much harm, I smoked until 2 weeks after I had found out and our son was fine. Not that I condone smoking throughout pregnancy.

You can still go to college with a baby, if you decide to have an abortion then it should be for other reasons, the right reasons. It's not an easy way out, it's not at all pleasant and making the wrong decision for the wrong reasons can make you very unhappy.

Talk it through with your boyfriend, involve your family only if you know they'll be supportive with whatever decision you make.

If going to college is the only thing that concerns you then take comfort in the fact many parents and young parents, better their education and get the career they want, while caring for their child.

I now have a 7 yr old and am working towards a degree (at home) with the OU, I also studied herpetology at home (and passed) a few yrs ago, so it can be done :)

On the Plan B website it says:What if I'm already pregnant and use Plan B®?

There is no medical evidence that Plan B® would harm a developing baby. If you take Plan B® accidentally after you're already pregnant, or it doesn't work and you become pregnant, it's not likely to cause any harm to you or your pregnancy. Plan B® will not disrupt or affect an existing pregnancy.

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It takes a while to figure out that you're pregnant so some people occasionally have a drink or a smoke before they figure it out, then they stop. It's just over a long period of time that really hurts the baby. Yours will be fine.

If you are still anxious, talk to your doctor about it.

Before you decide against/for abortion, talk to your boyfriend, and talk to your family. I can't make that kind of decision for you.

Its good that you have a good relationship with your boyfriend, and a steady source of income. Overall, things could be a lot worse. What I don't get is why you wouldn't want to continue your plans for college. Think about the benefits- make more money, and a better job... It'll be harder to be in college and also taking care of a kid, but I think it'll be worth it in the end. Babies cost quite a bit, even if you do get lots of hand-me-downs and presents from your parents! There are lots of different options for college now-a-days. You could do the online thing or take night/weekend classes.

Just be honest and present the facts when you break the news to your family. You know them best, so you'll be the best predictor of how they'll react. Chances are if they like your boyfriend, they'll probably be okay with your pregnancy, even if you are a little young.

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Im pretty sure your baby is okay this first 6 weeks. My sister got pregnant at 19, and she was a heavy smoker and toned it down when she found out she was pregnant, but she stil smoked even past 6 weeks. She quit now, but I think taking it further than 2 or 3 months is definately harmful. I think maybe the plan B pills is something you need to consult with your doctor about.

Dont forget either, that the nutrients everything you eat and take in goes straight to your baby.

And breaking the news to your parents cant really be done in any easy way. If your parents will be sure to dissaprove, prepare for some hefty emotions heading your way. Battle it out and know that your baby is NOT a mistake and that it is your CHILD! You are now a mother holding a soul in your belly, no matter how early you are pregnant. Your parents will have to accept it because it is there. Id just tell your parents your pregnant, and then let them tell everyone else for you. Kind of like a rumor.. Its easier than making it like its a huge announcement. Then it becomes stress all at once.

Abortion is your choice and your choice alone. You make the decisions in your life and if you think it is whats best, than you should do it. But look at all the options carefully and think of the joys it could be raising your child. A lot say you will never know a mother's love until you become one. My sister didnt feel this way when she first got pregnant because it was an accident, but as months passed and her child started growing larger, it became so much more real to her. She is happy now, and plans to go to college after her pregnancy is over. Me, my parents, and some of my siblings will help her by babysitting her baby while she's in school.

The road ahead is difficult, but it WILL get better.

I would talk to a doctor about whether or not smoking or plan b pills have an effect on a baby at 6 weeks.

Secondly, you CAN have a baby and still go to college. Yes, it will be tougher, but you can do it. If you don't think you want a baby and college at the same time, you could A) wait till the baby gets a little older B) take online classes or just go part time or C) consider adoption.

At 18, you are considered an adult....so living with your boyfriend and having a baby is not for your family to support or dispute.

Having an abortion isn't going to solve your problems and in fact, you can't take it back once you've done it.

Have some faith in yourself, take on the responsibility of your choice of having sex, and show the world you are a tough cookie and can get through this.

I hope your boyfriend will be the support you need...as you didn't magically get pregnant by yourself =]

Let me see if I can help you out.The plan b pill- is that the abortion pill? This might harm the baby. But you were six weeks along, right? Isn't that pill designed to take, like, within 24 hours of possible pregnancy? If so, then the baby could still be quite fine. You need a doctor. Any harm caused by the smoking is most likely negligible. I have five cool, smart, and happy kids. I did smoke before I knew, too. No big deal. I'm sorry that you're having this dilemma. Kids don't always come at the best times. I hope you consider adoption. But if you could keep the kid (not recommended in hardship- not good for mom or kid) this kid could become your best friend one day. I wonder how she would answer your Yahoo Question. I do hope you find out. Whatever the case, don't let grouchy, self righteous people drag you down or make you do something you may regret just to 'show them.' When there's a choice of raising the kid and aborting, and you can't decide, sometimes it's a good policy to choose the middle road, halfway between the two ideas. That middle road, or compromise, would be adoption. I'll bet your baby will be as smart and beautiful as you are, whomever raises him/her. The best of luck to you. Feel free to email me if you want to. Take care + lol!

If you took a hormone pill it may have altered the results and you may not even be pregnant.

Smoking a pack of cigarettes will not really affect the baby some women smoke throughout their pregnancy and it was quite common and accepted in the old days in the 50’s, 60'sand 70's.

Also if you smoked and did not feel like throwing up it might be an indication that you are not pregnant. The very first symptoms are nausea especially to cigarette smoke another symptom is bigger breast.

Do you have these symptoms?

Yeah having taken hormone pills would be somewhat worrisome but it depends on when in the gestion the fetus waswheb you took the pill. Maybe you got pregnant after (or not pregnant at all). Ask your doctor and keep a record of it in case you need to sue the drug company further down the line if you decide to have the baby.

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As far as college and all that well what will be will be you have a lifetime ahead and you seem to be a well organized woman if you pay for your apartment and bills and are planning college so I am sure you would be able to deal with a child in your life.

You are the best judge of that but I have worked in family counseling and here are a few things you might take into consideration.

1. Most couples do not stay together and break up shortly after they have decided on an abortion.

2. Women actually do go into a depression it is physical as well as emotional because the body is preparing for life it is undergoing many changes and preparing for a birth – when that pregnancy is terminated unnaturally it goes through a shock and an emotional withdrawl or depression and also guilt just like any death of a love one but slightly worse as abortinns are not something they cannot really mourn as they decided on it. If you understand what I mean.

3. Many women regret or have remorse later some deciding that a child would have fit into their life with minor adaptations others not really thinking that whatever they have done was worth sacrificing their child and most of them do adapt and move on but they also think about the child they aborted throughout different periods in their lives especially as they get older and have other children. Some go out and get pregnant soon after out of regret and some don't ever have children (or not till they are way older late 30's and forties) because they feel bad about the one they aborted.

You have been with your boyfriend 2 years and are now living together and worry how to tell your family or what they will think? Do you really think they will be surprised? I think not I can bet that they are even expecting it and probably pleased even if initially apprehensive.

Having said all this it is really for you and your boyfriend to decide but ultimately it is your decision as you will have to live and assume the greater responsibilities one way or another.

It is said that the soul of the child does not enter the body till shortly before birth, during birth or even after the birth.

Also that souls coming in are checking out the parents and deciding if they want to be born to that mother and that situation. So basically your child chooses you.

Good luck hopefully you are not pregnant but if you are just listen to yourself, sleep on it, dream on it, pray on it and then meditate on your choice. I am sure you will know just the right thing to do.

Did you schedule your ob yet? You should really talk to an obgyn and what he or she will do is have you take an ultrasound to see what is going on, when you were possibly pregnant and if there are any existing signs of trouble. I would honestly do this before you tell your whole family that you are having a baby. The smoking thing...yeah, not so great, but honestly, many women smoked before we knew it was harmful for the fetus. I'm not saying to continue, but at the same time, you can't undo what is already done.

I apologize, the morning after pill, is not supposed to affect the fetus. Apparently, it prevents the embryo from implanting, hence preventing pregnancy. You should still go to an ob and get checked out and have the ultrasound to make sure everything is ok and then decide what you are going to do. That decision is ultimately yours, nobody on this site has to raise the child and nobody has to endure the emotional and physical effects of an abortion. You have to do what's right for you. They're only babies for a short while, so its really the first few years that are the hardest. Life goes fast! You'll be 22 and done with college before you know it. Maybe you'll have a four year old with you, or maybe not. Good luck with whatever you decide.

As far as the cigarettes, Im pretty sure it was too soon to effect the baby at this point, or had minamal effects, just don't pick up another one! You'd be surprised how many women continue to smoke a pack a day there whole pregnancy. while pregnant puts both mother's and baby's life at risk.

Currently, about 13 percent of pregnant women in the U.S. smoke during pregnancy. If all pregnant women stopped smoking while pregnant, there would be an estimated 10 percent reduction in infant deaths in this country, according to the U.S. Public Health Service. Smoking while pregnant should be a cause for concern. Cigarette smoke contains more than 2,500 chemicals, with nicotine, tar, and carbon monoxide thought to be the most dangerous to the fetus. )

Im almost positive your okay with still have taken the Plan B morning after pill. What the pill does it thicken the cervical mucus so that the sperm cannot reach the egg, but obviously they met, so no damage can be done.

As far as an abortion, thats your decision. It's a subject thats so controversial, Don't let other people try and dictate what you should do. I don't like to talk about it, but I was in the same exact situation as you about 4 mos ago, just after graduating as well. I was also living in an apartment with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 yrs. It was completely unexpected. I too had planned on starting school this fall, and knew if I had my baby, I would never go back to school. Because eventhough I'am young, and not ready to be a parent, I would be the BEST parent I could be. I grew up in an amazing loving family, no smokers/drinking/drug-use/fighting/money issues. I was taught that many innocent children are brought into this world by irresponsible people. Although not all of them are irresponsible. Anyway, I had alot to think about. I had to ask myself; "Can I give this child the life it deserves?" No, I can't. I made the decision to have an abortion, and although it was extremely hard, it was the right decision. I'am now a pre-med student, and living like a normal 19 year old. Im doing everything I can to prevent that from happening again, because it's by no means easy. And when im READY, I cannot wait to be married, and eventually be a mom someday!!

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This might harm the baby. But you were six weeks along, right? Isn't that pill designed to take, like, within 24 hours of possible pregnancy? If so, then the baby could still be quite fine. You need a doctor. Any harm caused by the smoking is most likely negligible. I have five cool, smart, and happy kids. I did smoke before I knew, too. No big deal. I'm sorry that you're having this dilemma. Kids don't always come at the best times. I hope you consider adoption. But if you could keep the kid (not recommended in hardship- not good for mom or kid) this kid could become your best friend one day. I wonder how she would answer your Yahoo Question. I do hope you find out. Whatever the case, don't let grouchy, self righteous people drag you down or make you do something you may regret just to 'show them.' When there's a choice of raising the kid and aborting, and you can't decide, sometimes it's a good policy to choose the middle road, halfway between the two ideas. That middle road, or compromise, would be adoption. I'll bet your baby will be as smart and beautiful as you are, whomever raises him/her. The best of luck I am not trying to scare you by what I am going to say, PLEASE understand this is not the situation for everybody it just happened this particular time. My grandson was born with heart problems and had to be operated on at 4 months old but is fine now. My daughter was taking the pill for an additional month before she found out she was pregnant. She was on the pill for the first month of the pregnancy. The doctors don't blame the heart condition on this but it did make us wonder.

hmm, well going through college is tough when your pregnant or have a baby, but it is possible. But first let's talk about the baby's health. I'm pretty sure that alcohol is way worse for a fetus than smoking, so if you haven't been drinking excessively then the chances are that your kid will be fine.

As for abortion, I personally wouldn't do it. Contrary to what most people say, you do kill a potential human when you have one. It is the "easy way out", and robs the world of a wonderful person.

However, if you think that you cannot take care of the baby, then you should put it up for adoption. There are couples on thousand-page waiting lists just hoping and praying for an opportunity to care for a child like the one that you are going to have. You can even pick the adoptive parents :)

Anyway, give it a think. It is said that mothers have deep emotional attachments to their children during pregnancy. You probably do want your child to grow up and have a great life, so I wouldn't abort the child unless you are absolutely positive you have no other choice. Like I said before, adoption is the best thing if you can't keep the child yourself.

Austin