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Why would my boyfriend be going against his words?
Lately he is different, not a lot, but enough I can tell he's hiding things the way it seems. I know he has broken a few promises that he had made not to long ago.. and his reason was "Because I felt like it." and I asked him if he realized it was going to hurt me and he said yes. So I said, so basically you felt like hurting me. Did you know it was going to hurt me this bad? He didn't answer. He had try to say he did it because he wasn't fully awake... lie! Then he tried to say it was pop ups! Even bigger lie! He had searched for it... and just omg.. makes me feel sick.. and like I shouldn't trust him anymore.. mean he broke some promises... what more will he do or not do? Should I trust him? In much pain here. I'm trying to brush it off..but its not leaving my mind.... its everywhere anymore. He's like I know I f**ked up but just forget about it I said I'm sorry... well I'm tired of trying to forget about it... its not the first time he broke this promise.. but the previous time he had said he didn't make the promise... (and that was his excuse...) What should I do?
I had even told him before he made the promise, that if he couldn't keep it.. or if he really enjoyed to do it, I would do w/ bt he said no i was right & he didn't need it & then later after he said he wouldn't he tells me.. that it would of just been weird for me to b with him during it.. (it hurts for him to not even try... like he's wanting me to try new things in life) i lived in a small town then I moved in with him to a town like 50 times bigger at least and its things that I never heard of. i try because its only fair he had done a few things I asked that he questioned. right, and it wasn't going to hurt me -0 I have tried to sit down & talk with him but he always seems annoyed that I'm trying to talk to him bout it He's even told me that I don't try to talk to him & I try, he just doesnt like to listen half the time So I learned to write in a journal when I'm upset so I'm not bottling it all up When he asks y I'm upset I just give the journal He gets upset when i dont i say it.
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- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
seems like he is being distant towards you and that might be a problem, if he respected you and cared he wouldn't break promises this small, i mean if he can break a promise over this then what about keeping a bigger promise?
it seems like he doesn't really care and i take it your talking about him looking up porn?? if he continues to break promises, and say that he doesn't care that it hurts you, then whats the point of being with someone like that?? you deserve better
however, if you really want the relationship to work you both need to put the effort, and not just you. sit him down and tell him nicely that it bothers you that he does these things, and if he really loves and cares for you it shouldn't be a problem for him
give him an ultimatum, either he stops lying or your leaving
Good luck :)
- 1 decade ago
I guess he was watching porn? Um.. well maybe he has some secrets he doesn't want anyone to find out about, even his own girlfriend, so he'd rather hurt you or break promises just to keep his personal business or what not a secret to everyone. And it seems he understands that it hurts you but in his mind he must be thinking I know it hurts her and I feel bad, or maybe he doesn't feel bad, and then he just goes on with it. So he also lies a lot too, thats bad, because as they say, once you start a lie, you have to keep lieing if you want people to believe the first lie.
Looks like its dug into your mind and you need to do something and he seems to be thinking that it would be simple to forgive and forget, but it's not. So you need to talk to him about all this and explain that you are feeling very hurt and deceived that he lies to you, breaks promises to you, is keeping secrets from you, and hurting you in the process. Make sure you give him a good talk, see what he is thinking and try to really understand whats going on in his mind. Hopefully he doesn't start lieing while talking to you.
If he doesn't understand then you need to take action, your last resort can be to break up with him, since a girl shouldn't stay with a guy always doing these things to her.
Good luck :)