My Friend F*cked up my Life! What can I do to fix this!?

The first thing you can do is to tell your pseudo friend that you do not appreciate her telling him about your personal business and that you will not trust her with your personal information again. Second, call your friends, leave messages. Ask them if you have done something to make them not want to talk to you. If they were your friends and accepted you for who you were, they would not have been swayed by one persons' opinions . Sometimes guys shy away from girls that have ex' issues. This could be a little of it. Guys dont' like drama, and don't want to be part of it. Call your friend who had the crush on you, and apologize for not telling him about your ex, but you really don't owe him an explanation. You don't have to explain your situation. Obviously you aren't hanging out with your ex anymore right? I think the main thing with these guys is that they're just giving you some time to get your stuff sorted out. Let them know that you miss them and ask them all to come over, or just a few at a time, for a bbq, or a football game, or something like that. A guy environment, and just hang out with them again. They will get over it, and you will have your friends back. If they still act as though they don't want anything to do with you, there are plenty of people out there. People go through stages where they are not able to find a social circle, and that is very lonely and frustrating, but you will find true friends. Now you know not to trust someone with your personal information. I have been through this, and now a group of my friends are acting as though they want nothing to do with me. I am married and have 2 kids, so it's not as though I don't have anyone to be around, but it is very frustrating. You just need to communicate with them. Even if it means showing up at their house, and saying you'd like to talk. Just decide if they are worth it, or if it was just a way to pass your time, and get over your ex. Best wishes to you!!!

Yeah, yeah, your dad is the reason you act like you do. Your brother wasn't all he was supposed to be. Your mom wasn't there for you. Oh, please. How come all of these other folks are the ones who have control of what you do? Have you ever considered taking personal responsibility? You vandalized a garage and took a gun to school and got in fights and are doing drugs and smoking and you think it's everyone else's fault. Grow up, and quit whining about how bad you life is. Stand up straight, quit smoking - both tobacco and weed - and get an education. Get prepared for life. You're still a child at 15, but you can start acting like an adult any old time you want to. Check back in with us when you have some maturity and have quit acting like a jerk, okay? I think you'll turn out okay, but I'm not willing to babysit you while you have this tantrum and kick your heels on the floor crying that you're not loved enough, son. Man up. - Stuart

stop acting like a twelve year old

crying is not going to help you

whatever you do stay away from your ex

this has nothing to do with him

this is between you and your friends

try to talk to them and explain the situation again and again

eventually they will understand.if they don't maybe they are not for you,you can always make new friends who will understand you and be there for you

but going back to your ex will only take you 1 step back

you've been there and you know it's not going to work

don't waste your life being under someone else's shadow

If those guys were really wanting to be "just friends" with you than you talking to your ex even once shouldn't matter. I'm sure the guy that liked you was very hurt by what your friend was saying...drunk or not that was uncalled for. You need to have a heart to heart with your friend to cause shouldn't have told him all that. Give it time for all this to blow over & try to call them or you wait to see if they call you.

She wasn't your friend then was she? I'm afraid the damage is already done with your last eight friends, and maybe your better off with them anyway if they listen to your manipulative friend instead of asking for your side, or even having the brains to wonder why she would betray your confidence if she is worth listening to. You are better off without the lot of them, don't relay personal stuff to someone unless you are sure of their loyalty. Sorry x

those friends were his friends first so its understandable that they will stick with him. but you havent done anything wrong, so you should phone the guy with the crush and ask to speak to him on his own. explain everything that happened and tell him the truth about your feelings. if he wants to still be your friend then tell him that you want to also talk to the others so you can all go back to being friends. tell them there is no hard feelings and you understand why they didnt talk to you. if they dont want to be friends again then find new friends, you have done it before and can do it again.

I don't understand why all eight guys no longer want to be friends with you? If they were true friends then they wouldn't listen to this stupid girl who is obviously jealous of your relationship with so many men!! x

If they were really your friends why would they ALL stop talking to you because you might miss your ex???? and they just met your friend but theyv known you so why trust her and not you. This is their loss sweety.

Learn from your experience - choose your friends more carefully.