Is it good to have hope even if the situation seem so hopeless?

He has a picture of another girl in his wallet? Sounds like someone needs a reality check.

Don't consider it giving up, instead consider it to be dropping a chump. He doesn't deserve you if he treats you like that.

Besides if you are with him, how will you be able to find your true dream guy?

Apparently you did not consider that your philosophy degree is a very general liberal arts degree...... it is a good major if one wants to go to law school. I get the angst..... I had a masters in a liberal arts discipline and lived in my car for 3 months, took showers under peoples garden hoses, ate from garbage cans..... I did landscaping for $35 a day off the books, and eventually had to dodge more than my share of bill collectors too....... Eventually I got a decent job with lots of overtime (this was AFTER I was married) and did 85 hour weeks to pay the bills (did I mention that my base was $6 an hour?), car payments, rent/mortgage, and had to support a family of 4 plus two cats........ I collected cans and bottles to get the scrap value and did what I had to do..... I am past all that now and am a highly paid education professional because I did not wallow in the fact that i did not study some sexy high pay field in college...... I earned the respect of my peers and finally was able to secure enough of that to be recognized as an industry professional, then to college teaching, finally to administration. So, let's discuss your options: leave your wife a widow and your kids orphans, with no $$$ because your life insurance will not pay off for suicide or get tracked soen by international bill collectors who make the domestic ones seem like Winnie the Pooh....... take on another job, start to pay off the bills, and get rid of the cell phone, cable TV, eating out, movies and all the other non-necessities. Sorry, but if you are looking for sympathy, I am not your man.

Its always good to have hope...no matter what the situation is! But as for this one, I'm just not too sure. If he has a picture in his wallet of this girl then he must have some kind of feelings for her. Leave this guy alone, He's a liar and he sounds like a serious waste of time. Move on girl!

Hey, at least the guy is open and up front with you. He's not sneaking behind your back!

I'd say that there is hope. He will need some time to grow up though. (He is obviously taking advantage of the situation). Can you wait that long? You'll know if you need to let it go...

You probably deserve better. But... it seems as if you want to play this game for some reason.

This guy is using you and knows that he has you hooked. People that play games with other people's feelings have no conscience. He does not care about you or the other girl. He is stroking his own ego and needs to play women to make himself feel good. He is very insecure and will never really commit to a relationship. I know how hard it is to get over a broken heart, but I promise you it won't be that way forever. You are so better than that. You deserve the best from a guy. This jerk won't be able to give it to you.

Sorry, but do you believe everything you hear. Put some trust in what you see. He's saying what you want to hear. His actions say the opposite. Don't live for second chances. Go out and make your first chances.

I know how you feel. Im going through this myself. But she is special to him because her picture is in the wallet not yours. Move on. It may hurt, but never look back. The next time he see or hear about you, make sure your doing very good, so that he cant regret loosing you.

i was married to a guy for 17 years that said all the right things. didn't think about his actions. well one day he asks for divorce as his true love has moved back to town.

took everything of value when he left with her and his kid. figured out he had been with her at least five years before he left.

really look at actions not talk.

Yes,I wouldn't give him another chance as soon until he get the girl's picture out his wallet.

It is not ok to sacrifice yourself for something you don't believe in. You will always look back on it and kick yourself in the tail. You need to have a talk with your self about what is acceptable and what isn't. His looks and charm is what he is offering and his dedication to other women. Don't settle.