falling in love with brother in law?

Everyone is assuming you want to sleep with him because you said you're falling in love with him. I think that's the most disturbing part about your statement. It's one thing to be attracted to your husband's brother but to say you're falling in love usually means there's something deeper going on. I find my girlfriend's sister attractive but I would never cheat on her with anyone especially not her own sister. Finding other people attractive is normal but you seem to be taking it to a dangerous level. I think you need to evaluate how important your marriage is.

What would your falling in love with your brother-in-law bring you? Only trouble!! Is it worth it? You have to keep in mind that all people are imperfect and no matter with whom you live, there will always be something more that could be asked from a relationship. By changing your husband with somebody else, you might only change one set of problems with another. And it will be at the expense of everyone being hurt - your husband, your brother-in-law, your baby and you. So if it is not worth it, just keep that thought in mind. Whatever people might say, it is the mind that controls the feelings. Have the right thoughts and your unwanted feelings will disappear!

Is this your husbands brother or your sisters husband? Please realize that if this person is meeting some of your emotional needs you are in great danger of ruining many peoples lives and in this case the damage can never be reversed and will stay with you until the day of these people you know you love or till your funeral. Go and look at a site called survivinginfidelity.com and look at the double betrayal section which is what you are considering. Get O.U.T. out

Long as you keep these feeling bottled up, then everything should be ok. Is it because this guy shows you more attention (being there to talk to) then your husband? I am not sure how to make the feelings go away, especially since he does live with you, or you live with him. I would just keep in mind that you do love your husband, hopefully that will help you along the way!!!

Many years ago I felt an attraction to a coworker, and I kept it in check by telling my husband. In your situation you must also take into consideration the dynamics between your husband and his brother, and my solution may not be appropriate for you. After I outed myself, it left no room for the situation to get out of hand because I became transparent.

Sorry so many are trying to shame you; as Dr. Phil says, you cannot change what you do not acknowledge. I admire you for trying to deal with this before anyone gets hurt.

Well in order for u to be falling in love with him, he has got to be doing something where the two of u are hanging out and getting along very well. U need to keep in mind that he is with ur SISTER & that if anything was to ever happen she would be completely crushed. I think it'd be best if u where to move out and get ur own place. This way u wouldnt be with them 24/7.

You and your husband need to find somewhere else to live and just keep thinking of all the innocent people that would get hurt if you did in fact to something with your brother-n-law. Think before you leap.

The only solution thing you can do is first NOT act on you feelings. Secondly Move out Right now! And focus on your husband, I'm willing to bet your very young. Pack your thing's and move to your mothers even if there is only room for one of you.

You should move out immediately (or ask them to) otherwise you may have a weak moment and do something that could ruin your relationship with your sister. I went through something similar a few years ago with my brother in law when he and my sister were having some problems and he turned to me to talk about his feelings--I finally had to tell him that he needed to talk to someone else about it. If you care about your sister (and I'm sure you do) you MUST take yourself out of this situation!

If he is your husband's brother then i think he is your husband in law not brother in law.There is a time when you have to ignore your emotions even if they are true otherwise everyone will be hurt including yourself.So just ignore those feelings.