What is going through her head?

Take her for her word. She's confused about why she got into such a bad relationship and then stayed too. She knows she has some inner things to work out. She misses you and wants to get back with you, but not with all this baggage which might cause problems with you two.

Once she has time to sort this all out in her head, she can come back, fully ready to try again with you. Completely ready. Isn't that what you want? Not someone who is still distracted by an old relationship? It might take more than a few days though so think about whether you want to wait in order to give her the time she needs.

No, don't let it go a few days. I think the best thing for you to do is call her and let her know that under no circumstances you want to get back with her. Tell her that it's really over and that you have moved on. You need to do this you so you can get an upper hand on the situation. My honest opinion about this girl is that she seems so confused about what she really wants. And I think her only way out is therapy. You also need to make it clear to her that she is not to call you. Thank your lucky stars that you never married this girl. Just by reading what you had to say about her spells trouble big time.

You broke up in the first place for a reason..is that reason still there? If it is, then you should not consider getting back together. It sounds to me like she does still have feelings however can't decide one way or another and hasn't left this other guy whilst she decides. To be honest, you may be better off being mates for a while instead, get to know one another again and in the meantime have no relationship...she clearly needs time to get over the initial break up.

What is it that she has to think about? Was there problems in the relationship before the break up? If so, she may be having doubts because of the unresolved issues in the relationship she has with you. Her being with someone else is not an indication that her mind is totally on getting back with you. In fact, she may just be stringing you along just in case things do not work out with this other guy. Her relationship with him has turmoil and she runs to you for consolation. This is unfair to you and she is sending mixed messages by using you this way. Tell her she can take all the time she needs to decide what she wants in her life and that in the mean time you plan on doing your best to move on. She also needs to know that you offer no guarantee if you will be available if she decides to be with you. For now, you'd be best to move on. This girl is playing head games with you. Good luck to you!

If she doesn't already know for sure that she wants to dump the guy that locked her out of their home and begin your relationship again, then I don't know if she will even know for sure after she 'thinks about it'.

She sounds like she has personal dilemmas to work out and if I were you I would let her be. Give her time to decide EXACTLY what she wants to do (no maybes, I have to think about its, etc), but don't give her too much time. It sounds like she needs to start handling her relationships like an adult. You sound like a nice, considerate guy and for her to not know whether or not she wants to make you her priority is somewhat immature. I would move on if I were you.

Sorry if this is not what you want to hear, I sincerely hope everything works out for the best for you and her both (whether you get back together or choose not to). Good luck!

Well, she seems to be very confusing to her actual boyfriend, to you and even to me ! (Just kidding). From what you have said right now, she is not only "confused" but she doesn't seem to know quite well, if she wants again a serious relationship. If I was you, with all the pain in my heart, I would just move on. If she can't decide now, I don't think she ever will. Be it with you or somebody else. At 25 years old, any mature woman has grown up a little bit.

All I know is if I truly wanted a man, was truly in love, I'd do anything to be with him. Breaking up with a guy you don't like (and who locks you out of the house) is not difficult. As for sorting out her life, what does that mean? It doesn't make sense to me. None of us have sorted lives, there's always something to sort out. She sounds confused, but that's no reason to cast her away when she is ready. That is, if you still feel the same way.

Your focus within this question seems to be on your desires and wants. You have failed to be empathetic and try to assess what she is going through. The most important thing that you have said in your description is that he locked her out. Hmmm. She is living with another man only three months after you guys broke up? Was she cheating on you or does she naturally move this fast in relationships? With what you have told me, I would suggest that you put no pressure on her but try to be her friend and get her through this rough patch she is obviously going through. They are fighting and yes, her feelings and sanity is a little bewildered right now. She could use a friend more than she could use another intimate partner. Be that for her.

Let her know she can confide in you and help her. You should also know that becoming the rebound guy will only lead to more drama and heartache. This guy she is living with is obviously feeling and reaping the repercussions of your relationship with her as well as whatever she is going through on a personal level.

Think about this: She jumps out of a relationship with you and into the arms of another guy and is living with him. She is moving at a whirlwind pace and I commend her for realizing that she needs to get her life together before she commits to another person. You should want her to do this as well.

It benefits both you and she to be friends right now while she moves through this very difficult moment. She is being very respectful to you by not sleeping with you or promising a future. Respect her decision and empathize with the situation she is in.

In the long run, by being her friend you will know the progress she makes and will be right beside her when it is time to choose another intimate partner. With women, it is easier to turn to the one who was there for them than find a stranger. One small caveat here though. While being her friend, stay on a level of companionship. This way she will see you always as more than a friend but less than an intimate partner. Makes transition easier for her.

Best of Luck!!

One thing noone wants is to be with a person who is not sure what they want. If she is wanting you there just because she'll be stuck with no one then you don't want that either. If she w ants to get her life together, then why does she have to do that without you? 'She sound very confused. I think you are right to let this one go. There are other fish in the sea honey. Ones that aren't so confused. Tell her to decide what she wants or youre gone.

Wow sounds like my situation. I am giving the space that he requested. But no matter how much I love him if he doesn't give me a straight up honest answer I am done. I have waited on this guy long enough. It kind of worries me anyway because I just want him to know that he wants to be with me. Maybe you feel the same. Its complicated and it hurts I know. I wish you the best of luck!!!