If sex outside marriage is cheating then is sex before marriage is cheating your future partner...?

either way it would be wrong with me.

it is not exactly cheating on future partner but it would be cheating on the current partner thinking that you will actually get married to someone else and not them.

what i am saying is- the person with whom you'll do it now which is against the future partner is already cheating. if u looked for current partners position. as you are thinking of someone else in near or farther future.

yeah, ppl are really off from ideals because they don't know it and neither do their parents. and it goes on. majorly because of peer pressure. sadly, never get the real things.

bottom line is it's no good unless you are doing it with genunine feeling for the person you are with.

i think that's important.

See you are starting to think now. :-) BTW I am in the U.S..... no it is not "cheating" unless you are with the person at the time....since you are not with this future person then there is no cheating going on (makes sense huh)?.....if that were the case then I'd be getting on all of my potential future husbands right now and there are many others out there that would be considered as "cheating" as well if that were the case. However sex before marriage is a sin, and so isn't cheating on your partner (while you are in a marriage).

Hi I'm 20yo and from NYC.

I had a debate with a friend concerning this matter. I feel that it would be ideal if both partners were each other's first. My friend argued that if they really loved each other, they can look past each other's previous history. I don't think it is that ideal.

I feel that it is responsible to be aware of your future concerning marriage. If both people held onto their virginity, past many temptations and influences of today's culture, until they have found the one they truly love and want to be with for the rest of their lives, then wow... there's so much beauty in that communion.

You show so much respect when you consider the feelings of you future love even so far in advance.

USA

Only if you cheat while with your future partner. I think most people expect not to be the first.

I wouldn't think so, as long as he/she wasn't having sex during there relationship before the idea of marriage. If they weren't together, then no its not cheating, because you could have not known them before, or if you weren't in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with them and then after they slept with someone, then you decided to be with them, that's your choice, with being with them. its not cheating as long as your not cheating the relationship during when your in that relationship.

America, Chrishtian and a virgen

usa

I think cheating while being in a marriage is more worse then cheating in a relationship. But both are really bad.

AMERICA

yes it is but then again you haven't taken any vows yet

but if you do cheat

tell the other person before you actually get married

Only if you cheat on the partner you intend to marry.

well having sex before marriage is actually a sin. im a virgin. its against my religion to have sex before marriage. guys like when girls are virgins bc they know they didnt have anyone else. but its a sin and god doesnt appreciate it.