would you ever consider spanking your children as a form of discipline?

People decided they wanted to be more gentle and rational with their children. Also, we stopped viewing children as their parents' property. Also, a fondness for related consequences has come into vogue...letting the punishment suit the crime and all.

The only condition under which I would consider spanking is if a child were repeatedly trying to do something which would harm them or another person. This is because I'd need to do something *quick* to let them know it was a bad idea, and since the actual consequence to their actions would be much worse pain than a spanking, a spanking would let them know that the result of their actions is pain in a much safer way.

But spankings for general disobedience? No thank you. I'd like to be cleverer than that.

Edit: and time-outs for a replacement for spanking is a cop-out. Time-outs aren't an all-purpose punishment, they're only good if the problem is that a child is in a situation where they can't calm down and rationalize, and the best thing to do is remove them to somewhere they can calm down.

There is a difference between spanking and beating!

I was beaten as a child and that's most likely my problem why I have a hard time getting my point across with my children.

When I was hit I always wished my dad would thought of another way to get rid of his anger and at the same swore to myself to NEVER lay hands on my children.

For many years I'm still debating with myself and friends who are also mothers about that issue.

Only one time, my oldest one drove me so much up the wall that I tried to strike her behind, but had to let go and broke down in my bedroom cause I felt SO bad.

By the way,these days it is like that.Your children are now allowed to spank you cause when parents do it they go straight to jail or CPS comes and takes your children.They teach em that in school.

Do I wished they had that when I grew up!

No clue if the reason for my good manners are due to my beating when I was little; all I know ,it's hard to find right behavior in this generation.Not to much anymore.

Just can't get myself to hit my kids.And than I strongly believe that the change has something and a lot to do with what our children get taught by the media.I could be wrong though.

What do you think?

No, never!

There are much better ways to discipline children. Spanking is disrespectful to the child and aims at hurting him! On top of that, it is not an effective discipline method.

I am really fed up of constantly reading that spanking is the only way to have well behaved children. I have two boys who are 3 and 4. Everybody always comment on how well behaved they are. I am strict with discipline, but they have never, ever been spanked (and never will be). This is not necessary.

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If it is an act of discipline and isn't too hard (like you said, leave a mark), then I would not consider it to be a form of abuse. Yet spanking or hitting a child for no reason or anger... is abuse.

There's some really good research about this indicating that American kids don't process physical violence as well as kids in other cultures do. The researchers hypothesized that culture shows violence, even cartoon violence, as something that good guys do to bad guys more frequently than other cultures do.

I was spanked, slapped, hit with spoons, etc. and the second I was big enough, I fought back to try to make my mother stop. I still have to catch myself when I get angry because I want to physically engage the opponent before they hit me.

And anyway, once she hit me once, my endorphins kicked in so hard, she couldn't hurt me. I was just a biting, kicking ball of rage at that point. If my dad had ever hit me, I'd have called the cops or shot him. Period. I knew men shouldn't hit little girls when I was in kindergarten. Sound sane? Want your kid to say something similar? Go ahead. Make them violent. And watch your back.

Teaching kids that hitting is a solution isn't a sound concept in the modern world. Kids can't just "fight it out" without the school or other parents calling the cops, so you're really just damaging their social development, the part of their brain that works through conflict, when you hit them.

NEVER, as discipline.

Spanking is NOT a way to make a disciple.

However, spanking as a punishment. I guess so; I know it has been (and still is) a very effective form of punishment on my backside!!

Course, I've never been harmed nor injured. But the hairbrush can sure make the backside HURT for a few moments. A definite "unpleasantness" back there at the time.

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back then for sure, but now adays you get in trouble for stuff like that because children like to exgaggerate alot i suppose would be the reason? when i was a child well i am still but when i was a very young child i didnt really act up to bad. i suppose grounding or take away something is the way to go now adays. alot of people still spank thier children though. hope this half way answers your ?

what changed?

people forgot the difference

between spanking and beating

I spanked and was spanked

with no regrets but didn't abuse this method of discipline

I taught my kids that honesty was best..they where never spanked for honesty..this led to a lot of oral communication and eliminated spanking all together

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Anyone who spanks a child does not have any right being a parent, spanking your child is just something you do when you are getting frustrated and can not take anymore so you hit your child to get it out so how is that right? Not to mention why is hitting a child any different then hitting an adult? I mean if an adult hits another adult it is assault so why should it be any different when you hit a child?

It is also a proven threw many studies that time out works better then hitting, it showed more kids who were hit went back and redid what they got hit for where kids who got time out did not.

Another thing is alot of my friends hit there children and not one of them listen to a dang thing the parents say but my son always goes in time out and after he gets out he wont go back and do what he went to time out for

I will usually try timeouts or taking things away first, but sometimes a spanking is all that really works.