Friend Trouble (Condensed)?

I posted two questions on what to do about some difficult friends of mine. This a summary:

I have two friends and one of them is a wild drama queen, the other a conservative straight shooter. We have a somewhat codependent friendship based off a thing we call accountability. I have very little social experience because I have a very stable upbringing where as the other two don't really. I have called out the wild one many times because I act as a middleman for the group because I have no drama because of my stable upbringing. I hear everyone's opinions. We all met at a Christian young adults group. Me and the conservative one became leaders but the conservative one showed increasing codependency on the drama queen. I have been friends with these two for 3 years. There drama distracts me and I dunno if it is my fault or theirs. Now the wild one doesn't come to the young adults group and occasionally the conservative one who sides with him doesn't either. They seem to lay a lot of guilt trips and are very cliquey. I feel a lot like I have to follow them all the time because I don't every have much say. I don't want to compromise the things I hold dear for them. I also have been trying to spread out my social life at the young adult's group being the leader and all and I feel like there are guilt trips dumped on me because I don't hang out with them all the time. I encourage you all to read the full story but these are the highlights.

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