Online dating : Pros and Cons?

Tell your friend to try American Singles.com for her first online experience. There are many male players out there to stay away from because they love to play games. On A.S. members can submit a photo & write a little about themselves. There are also basic questions to answer so members can read the info & see if it's someone they'd like to Instant Message via the website. It's a great way to weed out the bad apples & then see if they're interested in anyone special. If your friend joins such a website such as A.S., eHarmony, etc. tell her to be very cautious as to what she tells men about herself, family, address, financial situation, etc. Tell her it's best to get to know someone via IM's, e-mails, or phone calls before meeting. The woman always needs to meet the man on her own turf, meaning in her city, not his, & not half way. They should meet in a public place & she should never take him to her home until they have dated for quite some time. A woman has to use caution & use common sense. She also needs to tell someone (friend/family) who she is meeting & where. She leaves the restaurant in her car & goes home, & he does the same thing. The woman must make sure he doesn't follow her home. Again, use common sense. One can never be too cautious. People will knock these websites, especially when they have never tryed them. My ex met his current wife on A.S., as well as my brother & his new wife, & a few other of my friends. Some work out & some don't.

hi. This si something I answer for you. I have been there. Online dating is fine, but you must be very very careful. I have a system, that I have always followed for online dating. Email first, til its comfortable. Then chat, then telephone, then meet. If all is comfortable. Most men, don't make it to the chatting lol, but believe it or not, i have met some great ones, not many, but its definitely something that works. Its great because you dont have to go out. Its not great because its a little harder to scan out the wierdos etc. But there is definitely nothing wrong with it. I enjoy it and as a matter of fact, I have met a guy once again, and I am thrilled. (no longer online). I did not want someone that wanted me for my looks either. So lastly, if you want them to focus on you...., then dont put a photo right away. OR, just put a simple picture up and that is it. Let them get to know the rest of you before letting them see all of you. So it can work. Best of luck.

I have tried these several times and with some pretty good results. I don't expect to find Mrs. right on here but I don't think finding someone who is compatible is out of the question either. I talked to one woman for over a year before we finally met. My friend's boy met a girl from a long distance away on one of these sites and they are happily married. Most of these sites are scams. Very few are totally legitimate. Most will have recurring monthly hidden charges. They do not explain that very much when you sign up. Most will cost you a monthly fee to be able to contact people . Free to look, pay to contact. I have no problem with That. I just don't like it when they send you im's telling you so & so is interested in you. Then when you go to look at their profile, they haven't even been online for several weeks. It is a ploy to get you to join so you can contact the one in question. Do some searching on dating scams. This IS a very good way to meet some really nice people though. You just have to be careful, just like in real life.

I signed up once for this. Every guy I have ever known for a friend in my life saw my profile and called me to rag me about it. I took it down the very next day and never did it again. But I do know a guy who met his wife that way, and they have been together many years and very happy. And I know another guy who met a woman and said she had lied about her profile and it was not a good match. So you don't know what you are going to get when you do this. I'd say tell your friend if she is interested in a person she meets that way, to MEET them at a place, drive her own self. That way if something happens she is not happy with, she can leave on her own. I would be wary of letting them know where I live for quite a while anyway. You never know; they might be shopping for victims.

Pros:

1. much like a dating service you would pay for in your town

2. also much like a personal ad in the newspaper

3.. if she's shy, a nice way to start communicating

4. if she honestly takes time, she will weed out the bad ones

Cons:

1. As with any dating situation, CAUTION, CAUTION, CAUTION.

2. Some very smoothe talkers out there, some only looking for security at a woman's expense, tell her to be overly cautious....ask many questions.

3. and finally, if she choses to meet someone, ALWAYS, IN A PUBLIC PLACE, even after talking a good bit of time, you still never know.

Couples meet in many different ways, I'm a widow now, but met my husband in a grocery store.

Good luck to her if she decides to try........but again......tell her to be VERY CAREFUL, I cannot emphasize that enough.

No Pros, but after 50s also she is not yet found the pure love in her life and looking for man for online dating is ruthless.... and if she is looking for online dating for what purpose and what is the necessity in her life? this has to be cleared enough.... is she is find any pure love in this age is a miracles only. because her taste and her needs are fulfilled by one young generation person....it is very glad....but carefully handle the situation which ever it is come to your life....

all the best

Manjunatha R

manjunathraj23@yahoo.co.uk

It's a convenient way to get to know people,especially for people who for some reason have difficulty meeting the opposite sex.They may have lost touch with their old friends and don't like going out alone; Location,Children,Illness etc.

I would think reputable dating sites try and screen prospective clients to try and minimise and risk.

There will be conmen/women out for what they can get,money,sex,but that is the same with any meeting.

Used with common sense I think the advantages of a reputable site outweigh the disadvantages.

To be honest, I have mosty cons stories for this.. however there is one very good romance story that is turning out wth one of my friends and a guy she met online. Try Lavalife..I think all of these sites will have the good, the bad and the ugly so just tell your friend to keep her eyes open. Good luck!

i am a con... she's already 50, and she haven't got a husband? But all i can say is Age is not a hindrance to having a love life.. go on girl! Good Luck!!

"Happily married" is an interesting term.

Anyway, I met my wife{Lady Barbara}on this very site.{Y!A Seniors} so I know meeting the right person is possible.