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So, should a transsexual lesbian head off to a gay bar?

Ok, so I'm a transsexual lesbian. Meaning, born "male" downstairs, but my mind and spirit are female, fully plan on SRS as soon as I can, and I like girls.

So, is a gay bar, where lesbians would go to drink, a place I should be?

Also, how open minded are normal gendered lesbians to transsexual lesbians? I'm not a guy, not even a little.

Update:

"if you are pre-op, you must be honest with women,however"

Oh, of course, of course. Not just for them, but I don't want to get rejected for that AFTER falling in love.

My policy on this is to mention it at the point where the phrase "my place" comes up. Not everyone at the bar needs to know if it never gets past buying a drink.

Update 2:

"You could totally find a woman now, and much more easily than you will later I'm afraid."

Perhaps, but "a woman" isn't what I'm after. What good is a partner if I have to be a miserably "guy" to do it. There's a reason for the transition... I'm not a guy. My mind and spirit are not male, and never could be. Ask my ex-girlfriend. She knew long before I ever told her (I hadn't transitioned yet). That's why we're not together, she's straight and wants a guy.

Update 3:

I'm after happiness.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    wow, now that's confusing... being a male downstairs makes you automatically available to women, so you could find a female already without changing anything. Being a woman myself, I would have reservations about going with a transsexual lesbian, it's the physical attributes of a woman, the softness, the curves... the things that will be difficult for you to achieve even with surgery, that I'd find attractive in another woman. You could totally find a woman now, and much more easily than you will later I'm afraid.

  • 5 years ago

    The overall concept of social education is not something new. Consider how the movies, tv, even cartoons have taught everything from racial tolerance and tolerance of those who are handicapped. Religious based cartoons are a prime example of someone teaching their view of life. In this case you should know better than to think they are teaching them about sex. Cmon now folks how shallow can you be? What they will teach is that there are people who are different and that hating them is not a good idea. How is that bad? Btw the transsexual aspect is not a sexual thing at all despite the misinformation about it. That is a form of a birth defect that is known and medically accepted! So you think that is bad? If so you are ignorant of reality. Sharon

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    When I was younger I went to the lesbian bars all the time and was perfectly accepted. It is the right place to be. I don't go now just because I am too old for bars.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    since ur a lesbian, yea. but some might like to find out u were born a guy.. lesbians r usually turned off by that

    <3

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  • 1 decade ago

    well im a lesbian and i would have no problems with it... as long as nothing "happened" before you get the operation...

    i wouldnt just tell everyone but if you are talking to a girl you like you should bring it up....

    i would much prefer in that situation to be told before things go too far

  • munki
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Well where I live in England,gay bars are for all members of the LGBT community.If you are pre-op,you must be honest with women,however.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    all kinds go to the bars here in Dallas. Just be honest with anyone that you may get closer to then typically if you get my drift. Everyone likes surprises, but not everyone likes that kind of surprise.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think gay bars are very accepting, just be open and honest and someone will love you and appreciate you for that.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I don't see why not, I would go to a gay bar if I had someone to go with me haha.

    Source(s): FtM trans
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If you don't know, how the heck are we supposed to know?

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