how do i break up with her without hurting her feelings and say what i want?

Sylar gives you about the worst advice in the world! This is not a good strategy! And if you hope to remain friends, don't consider it. She will think you're a jerk and hate you for it, and she'll likely understand that you're trying to get her to break up with you. Way to ruin your friendship and your reputation among mutual friends and her friends (potential future gfs).

A better idea is to be honest with her but let her down easy. Tell her that you liked you two together as friends better, and you miss what you used to have. Let her know that she is really important to you as a friend, and that you don't want to risk that by taking things any farther. Saying something simple like, "I really really like you, but I think I like you better as my friend than my girlfriend. I want to be friends with you, and I don't want to ruin that. I just feel like it's not fair to lead you on, because I really just want to be your friend."

Obviously you're a thoughtful guy. You want to let her down easy. Telling her the truth, but in a nice way, is your best bet. I have some friends who dated, and the girl ended up feeling that she liked the relationship better as friends. She told the person this, and they are still friends. It's better than lying or being a jerk about it. Good luck!

Tell her the truth. Let her know that you REALLY want to stay friends, but that you don't feel that going out was the right thing to do. That you jumped into it when you were going through a rough time, and feel like you made a bad decision...

Or you can tell her how you have come to realise that things to you, were just perfect between the two of you when you were friends... and that you wish that you could have it back...

Or, mix and match between the two :)

Good luck!

Whatever you do you are going to hurt her feelings. Now the question is how bad. The longer you drag it out the more you'll hurt her becaus on top of you not wanting to be with her now your lying. As to the question about friends well you should have thought about tha before you started dating her.. Thats a 50/50 chance.

Plan A: One thing you could do is straight up to talk her about it, like tell her that you just wanna be friends with her and tell her your reasons. If she understands, then you guys would still be friends and you won't be losing anyone.

Plan B: Hmmm, maybe make up a scene or something, but that's not the best way to go. Just do plan A!

If you end it, the friendship will leave. But then again, it left when you decided to take the relationship to the next level. No matter what you say, it will hurt her, so just tell the truth.

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I know so much how you feel.......There is a guy that was there for me too and the best friend I have and he supported me emotionally when things were rough......I thought I loved him like he loved me but It was more that he helped me and was my best friend I think. I feel so badly because he loves me in a way I cannot love him and I have had feelings for someone else and he still waits for me.....I do not know who I love anymore but I do not think I have that kind of love for him......I am very emotionally lost...and until I find myself, I cannot love anyone. I love him as a friend and sometimes I feel like it is more because he is always there for me....I get very confused sometimes and I am not wanting to hurt him anymore with my confusion for whether I love him of not in the way he hopes. My advice to you would be to tell her how much she means to you even though you do not love her in that way.....Tell her how much your friendship means to you and that you were afraid to tell her your feeling because you did not want to lose her as a friend....I hope she will understand and I hope my guy will understand too.....I do not want to hurt him but we cannot love someone romantically just because we love them as a friend.....It is so hard when one great friend loves the other without the same.....God bless....I hope it goes well and you stay very good friends forever

That just tells you that you are not ready for dating. You can like each other as friends, and explain that to the girl, you are both obviously to young for dating. It is much better to; focus on your school subjects,once she gets to agree with you that she is also to young for dating then you can be friends. To see each other occasionally and with other friends you may both have, would be a relationship that you both could handle much better .

don't act like an idiot or you'll lose her friendship.

just tell her "hey listen i know we had some good times together but i don't really see our relationship as a bf gf relationship, im sorry but i hope we can still be friends." say that for example.

look its only been a month or so, she cant be that emotionally invested if its only been that short. just say you liked her better as a friend and thats how you want it to be again. if she still wants to date there is no way you wont hurt a little but like i said its been so short of time it wont be a big deal. the sooner the better for her.