Is any adoptee *better* than other adoptees?

In real life my children know a lot of other adoptees and it doesn't seem like they judge each other. We have gone out of our way to make friends with other adoptive families of all kinds, thinking that way our children would have an adoptee support system of their peers ready to hand should they need it.

But now that you ask, I dread the idea that what I thought would be a support system for my children could turn into their being scorned as either lesser adoptees because of their circumstances or, if they are content with their adoptions their being dismissed as "fogged" adoptees.

Adoptees are the only people in the so called triad that have absolutely no say in the adoption. Why should they be penalized for that?

what, you think they shout "You're not as adopted as I am" or "I'm more adopted than you!"

Come to think of it, I think there was someone who recently asked if step-parent adoptees had their feelings ignored. Maybe it is true...

I don't think any one is "better" or "worse" than me. I'm adopted (I was born in Korea and then adopted at 3 months by American parents) Everyone's story is different and special. I hope to adopt myself one day:) I commend anyone for opening their home to a child who needs one and providing them with a family.

It also seems as though many people judge adoptees (in here) as to whether or not they decide to search (betrayal?).

Hi Kristy.

Why should they judge each other...they were all "forced" into the same boat and are having their hands tied by the same pro adopter rights group.

Many people on here are not judging Aps but merely pointing out their poor thinking and judgment.

Go to Unicef.org and see for yourself how the rights of natural families and their children are being violated by the corrupt adoption business and its participants.

No! I think the 'judging' of adoptive parents has to do with the ethics (lack thereof) and methods some use to obtain a baby

NO. My son is just as important as any other child.

i think TRA's have it even worse than domestic adoptee's.

how would you like to lose not only your family, but your culture as well?