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Unusual custody arrangement?
My husband and I have amicably agreed to a divorce. He is a good dad to our 4 kids and wants joint custody. My concern is that he works longer hours than I do. I am home every day for the kids after school. Sometimes he works past their bedtimes. He will not agree to me having full custody with him having every other weekend visitation even though I told him that he could see them whenever he wanted. He wanted the kids every other week, but I didn’t like the idea of the kids being ping pong balls, bouncing back and forth every 7 days.
So we hatched a compromise and I am just looking for opinions about how this will be for the kids. The kids, who are all in school, will come to my house after school, stay with me until supper time and then go to his house. Either he will pick them up or I will drop them off. We get along pretty well so seeing each other everyday isn’t a concern. This is also basically how life is for the kids now anyways where I do homework with them and spend time with them after school and when he comes home, he takes over and puts them to bed and gets them up in the morning.
5 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Sounds like a mature compromise. Good for the two of you for cooperating! I'm sending you a gold star.
- Killer QueenLv 71 decade ago
If you can work that out, great! Oftentimes it takes the same qualities you need for marriage to make joint custody work. But if you both are commited to it and will compromise, you have an increased chance of success. You both sound like you want to do what is best for the children and that's wonderful.
However, document everything! If he doesn't show or is late, and see if you can get a witness to that. A neighbor for instance. Then if you have to go back to court, you'll be ready.
- 1 decade ago
Thats odd, it sounds like they would be "ping pong balls" in that situation than him having them every other week. Another compromise Ive heard alot of people doing is one parent have them for a full month, and the other parent gets them for the other month.
- 1 decade ago
My X husband and I have a week on, week off schedule with our two boys. Did I want my kids to be gone for 7 days? Not at all, but I knew that it was the right thing to do for them. They love their parents equal and in my opinion should get equal time with them.
In my opinion it sounds like your arrangement has them "ping ponging" everyday. At least with the week on and week off they are in one place for 7 days straight.
It works great for us....each to his own.
Congrats for putting your children first!!
Source(s): divorced mom of two boys....4 and 5. - How do you think about the answers? You can sign in to vote the answer.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Sounds good to me. Nothing changes. Nice to see good people working it out without someone in a black robe telling them what to do.
